I'm going to lose it!!!!!!!

[toodles]

I am just at witts end. Hubby is really irritating me. It seems like it takes nothing at all to set him off these days.

Last night he slept on the couch. why??? well, your guess is as good as mine but we did have a disagreement last night. a very minor one, I thought. this is what happened:

He went to make some coffee in the kitchen and comes in and says "can you believe we are almost out of regular AND decaf??" I said "wow!" He said "wanna sit on the porch and drink some coffee with me??" I said yeah, that sounds great! Let me get some coffee..."

I go to pour me some decaf and said "well, I need to go to Cool Springs anyway to get them to reset the alarm on my car"

he says "what do you mean, anyway??"

I said "I can go and get some more coffee while I am there"

he just started laughing this irritated little laugh. I said "you know, I don't know why you have so much trouble following me. I have never had anyone ever have as much trouble as you do."

He said "oh, so now it's my fault??"

I just stood there, kinda stunned. I wasn't saying that anyone was to blame. Maybe I need to start being more precise when I talk but I wasn't saying there was anything wrong with him. I was just laughing because he has such a hard time following me and I am not used to it.

We are just different like that. when he talks, he is very exact and precise. to a point that it almost annoys me. Like, he will not shorten any words...he is just EXACT. I am not. I am a more casual person and I really can't help it.

so...we never made it to the porch. he opened up his laptop and just started working on some stuff. I just sat there. I got a phone call from a good friend of mine, we started talking and hubby got up and went outside with his laptop. when I got off the phone I went out there with him. I said "it's kinda chilly out here". He said "yeah".

that was it. nothing else said.

I came back inside after a few minutes and folded some clothes and brushed my teeth. When I came out of the bathroom, he was in bed. I got in bed. about 5 minutes later, he gets up and goes into the living room. I fell asleep and woke up at 5:30 this morning to find that he had taken his pillow and alarm clock and went and slept on the couch!

what in the world????

I just dont know. He is up now and said good morning to me but is pretty much acting like I don't exist. When he gets out of the shower, I will ask him what is wrong but I don't want to get into a big discussion until after my daughter gets to school. so it might have to wait....I hate this.

It is so hard to be married. I had no idea.....

[Mandy]

Hmm... my husband can get like that sometimes, that i wonder "what now"???? Its very confusing, and i used to upset me, but now i tend to make a joke of it, he would find the smallest most unimportant thing to nag nag nag about?! Specially with my son, i used to wonder if he goes around looking for things to complain about LOL
Geeezzz i get so fedup with him, i tell him he sounds like an old lady with wet pants.
Sometimes i wonder if men go thru PMS!!

[toodles]

Originally Posted by Mandy

Hmm... my husband can get like that sometimes, that i wonder "what now"???? Its very confusing, and i used to upset me, but now i tend to make a joke of it, he would find the smallest most unimportant thing to nag nag nag about?! Specially with my son, i used to wonder if he goes around looking for things to complain about LOL
Geeezzz i get so fedup with him, i tell him he sounds like an old lady with wet pants.
Sometimes i wonder if men go thru PMS!!

are we married to the same man??? LOL

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by toodles

are we married to the same man??? LOL

LOL... a LOT of men are this way girl. I think if we all are honest about it, 80% of us would agree

Some days i dont have a problem to ignore hes nitty gritty moods, and then i have days where it makes my neckhairs rise, thats when he gets a "mandy blasting" LOL

[cindy0721]

Hubby is like that too... he has the hardest time understanding me... he will at times argue a point til he is blue in the face only to realize I agree with him and he just didn't GET IT.... awww... I could smack him sometimes.... lol

[Janet]

My hubby understand me....I have a hard time understanding him. He drives me nuts!!!! He tries to use big words that he doesn't even know the meaning of and doesn't make sense to what he is talking about. Not sure who he is trying to impress, but it's not impressing me at all. Makes me think he's nutso!

Men are just weird, that's about the only way I can explain them. I just ignore him and hope he sleeps on the couch...LOL

[goofywife]

I feel very forunate. I do not have this problem. My DH and I are in a place in our marriage that is great. We each feel comfortable with each other and the decisions that we make and do not worry if one has to make a decision without the other. Usually they are right on target.

On the flip side, at my full time job we have done some personality profiling. So, I had both of us done. We each discovered our strengths and weaknesses. They wrote a book on this called "discover your strength" which we read as well.

I know when its best to go with his strength and he know when its mine. At the same time, I know when he works himself into a conflict (drive vs detail) and I need to guide him to make the decision and be ok with it. We also compliment each other with things that he is strong at and things that I am strong at and we give each other the room to feel like we are partners.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Janet

My hubby understand me....I have a hard time understanding him. He drives me nuts!!!! He tries to use big words that he doesn't even know the meaning of and doesn't make sense to what he is talking about. Not sure who he is trying to impress, but it's not impressing me at all. Makes me think he's nutso!

Men are just weird, that's about the only way I can explain them. I just ignore him and hope he sleeps on the couch...LOL

Please remind me to make sure my mouth is not stuffed with coffee while i read "husband related posts"
You have me spitting my coffee all over the place ROFLMAO!!! Your reaction, oh man janet, i can just hear you say these things!
My son asked me what im laughing at, told him something funny on tv and im still LMAO!

We DEFINATLY need to have a meeting in this lifetime!