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05-11-2007, 11:49 AM
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Broken Engagement
One of my dearest friends has been engaged to her fiance since December, but she broke it off with him this week. She's having a very difficult time since they have dated for over three years. She really felt it was the right thing to do though(and her parents agreed) because he often brought her down and made her feel really bad. He also didn't appreciate all of the things she did for him either. She gave and gave, but he didn't really do very much at all. The guy is bipolar so their relationship has always been up and down. She said that when he was happy, she was ecstatic and felt like the happiest person alive, but when he was sad he would try to make her sad too and she'd end up crying in her room for days. This is not like her at all. She was prom queen and homecoming queen in high school and is really bubbly, outgoing, and just fun to be around. She's also the most genuinely nice person I've ever met.
Anyway, she has been having a very hard time dealing with this and has been hanging out with me and my hubby almost every night since (and just before) they broke up. I wish I could make her feel better, but the best I can do is listen to her stories and tell her that we are here for her when she needs us. I was just hoping that you ladies might be able to say a quick prayer for her. I'd love to see her truly happy and smiling again, but I know it will take time. I just hate it when people are sad... 
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05-11-2007, 11:58 AM
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I can imagine how hard it must have been for her to do something like this. It took a lot of courage that is for sure. I will keep her in my thoughts.
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05-11-2007, 11:58 AM
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Angie, im so sorry your friend is going through a hard time, but by the sounds of it, its probably for the best, and its better to happen now, then after they married with kids. I will keep her in my thoughts & prayers.
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Thanks girls. You are right Mandy. Much better now that later. I have unfortunately seen bad marriages in the past and how horrible it would be to have to constantly fight and bicker. I'm glad she doesn't have to go through that, but I wish she didn't have to be in so much pain right now. She is 22 years old and is afraid she'll never get married. She is a beautiful, talented girl with such a sweet personality and I know the right guy is out there for her. Until she finds him, I hope that my hubby and I are able to encourage her and just be there for her when she needs a friend...
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05-11-2007, 01:05 PM
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I agree that she did the right thing. It sounds a situation that she needed out of and as Mandy said, "its better to happen now, then after they married with kids." As with all breakups it's going to take a while to get over it. Tell her not to rush into another relationship but to take her time and find "just the right guy". She needs to get her self-esteem back and feel good about herself.
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05-11-2007, 06:25 PM
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wow...sounds like a tough draw. well, it is good that she was able to call it off now. cuz once you are married, "calling it off" is a LOT harder to do....
Just keep being her friend. sounds like that is what she really needs. I hope all works out for her.
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05-12-2007, 03:51 AM
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Sounds like she needed to do this. All we can do is be supportive I think. Only the couple knows how the relationship really is and then if you listen to only one side, it's not a complete truth. She will heal, but it takes time. Thank goodness she listened to her heart and made the break now. Too many people take the attitude with marriage is that we'll see how it goes. I'm glad she didn't do that.
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