Is it wrong?

[Tink]

I truly enjoy being home by myself and working on my house and lawn on my own schedule. I'm enjoying not having a job, see no need to be forcing myself to join and participate in all sorts of organizations, and my dh is content with letting me do my own thing. He and I are getting along much better since I decided to reclaim the title of "housewife" as much as that title makes me cringe.

My mother and oldest dd are worried that I'm too much of a hermit and keep on me about how unhealthy it is. I'm not depressed, I'm not afraid to go out, I talk to friends and family several times a week, and have many online friends I keep in touch with as well. As far as I'm concerned, this is the life I choose. To hear them tell it, I'm in denial and they're only trying to save me from myself.

So if I'm content, is it wrong to live as I do? Would I somehow be "better" if I force myself to do things I have no interest in doing and give up my own desires? Why can't they see that I'm just wired differently than they are?

[Mandy]

Tink, whats MOST important here, is YOU, and the way you chose to live your life! If you, and your hubby are happy this way, then dont worry too much about what other people tell you. Maybe your mom and dd are used to you working, etc etc... and they havent seen this side of you yet?

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Mandy

Tink, whats MOST important here, is YOU, and the way you chose to live your life! If you, and your hubby are happy this way, then dont worry too much about what other people tell you. Maybe your mom and dd are used to you working, etc etc... and they havent seen this side of you yet?

I agree with Mandy, Tink. I think you should do whatever makes you happy. If you were depressed and that was the reason you are staying home, I'd be a bit worried, but you know yourself and whether or not you are sad. Maybe you could tell them the things you like about being at home so that they could understand you a little better? Anyway, I just want to emphasize that you need to do whatever makes you happy!

[DianaB]

Tink, I'm glad that you've found what you enjoy doing! The term "housewife" is one that I don't like either. I'm not married to my house! I prefer to call myself a "homemaker" because I feel that's more what my job is, to make a nice home for my family. I'm glad that things have worked out where you have the choice of working or staying home.

[Janet]

Tink, dear friend...you are not just a 'housewife.' There is wwaaayyy more to it than that. You are a domestic engineer!!! I love being home during the middle of the day to do what I want and need to do. I'd rather not work at all, but we need the insurance so I'm a bus driver. Hours are great, I can make more if I want to do extra-curricular and sports trips. Have many vacations days, 2 weeks off at Christmas and New Year's and still have summers off.

You would know if you needed more. I think a lot of times, people say things to us because they are jealous we have so much time to take care of our homes, yards and OURSELVES!! Some women want to work...there is nothing wrong with that, I use to want to work and worked everybit of overtime I could. Not because we needed the money, I just liked working. Now at my age, I'm ready to slow down a bit. You just be happy girl!! You'll know when you need something more.

[goofywife]

I wish I could stay at home. There are a lot of people that stay at home. It doesn't make them a hermit. Hermits don't associate with anyone. You associate with a lot of people on 4WT