Not going to believe this one!!

[Janet]

Okay, most of you know how I feel about hubby 3/4 the time . Well, he did it again!! He has been so nice to make the bed every morning for the last couple of weeks . Looks bad, but I don't say anything, just wait for him to go to work and then I fix it. That's being a good wife, don't ya think so?????

Okay, this morning I go in to remake the bed and saw that Joey had had a bit of diarrhea on the while blanket we use . How in the world can someone see brown crud all over the a white blanket and go ahead and make it? I just can't believe this has happened.

I did, kindly (it took all I had in me) mention it to him this evening. He said he thought it looked a little dengy. How can someone not know the difference between deingy and brown diarrhea?

[AngieDoogles]

Oh my. Men really can be oblivious sometimes, but that one confuses me too...

Good for you for not getting upset and handling it in such a positive way! I'm sure he really appreciated that, whether he let you know or not.

[Marilyn]

Ooooooouuuuu, I don't get that one either. My hubby would have not made the bed and told me that MY dog had crapped in the bed, expecting me to handle it. Aren't they a mess???? Both the dogs and the men!!!

[DianaB]

My husband would have been like Marilyn's and pointed it out to me to take care of. After all, the dog is mine.

How sweet of your husband to be making the bed for you. You really shouldn't go in and redo it for him. I read a book that said that when you do that you let them know by your actions that you weren't happy with their work and it will discourage them from doing it.

I caught myself, after I had read the book, straightening a pillow that my husband placed on the bed for me. He made a comment and hasn't helped since (of course he's usually not here when I make the bed). Next time the bed is made how it's made.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by DianaB

My husband would have been like Marilyn's and pointed it out to me to take care of. After all, the dog is mine.

How sweet of your husband to be making the bed for you. You really shouldn't go in and redo it for him. I read a book that said that when you do that you let them know by your actions that you weren't happy with their work and it will discourage them from doing it.

I caught myself, after I had read the book, straightening a pillow that my husband placed on the bed for me. He made a comment and hasn't helped since (of course he's usually not here when I make the bed). Next time the bed is made how it's made.

I don't mind taking care of things concerning the dogs, I love them so much! But at least he could have told me. It could have been on there a lot longer if I hadn't gone in there.

I guess you could call it sweet. It would have been sweeter if he had done it right in the first place. Maybe the author of that book would like to make my bed...LOL

It's just that I've always been taught to do chores the right way. After living with me for almost 32 years, you would a thought he had a clue how the bed is made and few other things for that matter. I remember a saying that goes: If you don't have time to do it right the first time, when are you going to have time to do it over?"

[Tink]

Hmmmmmmmmmm I'm trying to recall if my dh has ever made our bed. LOL
I imagine in nearly 22 yrs he might have once or twice, but I doubt it's any more than that. LOL

Janet, the sad thing is, you can let his imperfections drive you away from him or you can learn to laugh them off and choose to love him anyway. I went through a period of many years where I focussed on Gregs ability to annoy me. When I was feeling like that, EVERYTHING he did became worse in my eyes. Of course the less I appreciated him, the less he tried, too. (and who could blame him?) Eventually I came to a point where my prayers changed from "Lord, fix this idiot I'm bound to" to "Lord, help me to learn to love him again" and miracles began to happen.

Life's far too short to spend it miserable and barely tolerating the person you're committed to. Divorce is an option, but that breeds more unhappiness and hurts everyone around you in the process. What's worked for us, is to choose to make Greg my best friend. I tell him "since you're stuck with me for life, we'd better find a way to make this work" and his attitude has changed in response. We now laugh off a lot of things that just a couple years ago would have driven another wedge between us. In the process we're both happier and much closer to each other.

Your posts about your marriage make me sad because they remind me so much of where we were at and how hopeless it felt to be there. You're such a wonderful lady that I hate the thought of you living like that. I'm going to pray that you and your dh have the same blessing that me and mine have recieved. I don't have the answer for you, but know God does. Expect a miracle.

HUGS