we are fighting!!!!

me and my mom just had a big fight over the fact i let my oldest daughter who is almost eleven shave her legs tonight (i bought her the veet bladeless kit) now she's saying that i dohn't have any control over my children and that in two years my oldest dtr will be having sex and all that and she's now saying that i don't show her any respect!!!!

By the time my daughter was that age her legs were black from all the hair it took like 6 razors to get it all, I do not think your child will have sex in 3 years just because she shave her legs yeah right. This is your child you are her mother your mother is the grandmother, you need to raise your child the way you want to. If it was me I would say thanks for the advise mom but I will raise her the way I think is best. hope I don't hurt anyones feeling.

[Jlynn]

Sorry to hear your fighting with your mom. But, I have to agree with Ellen. This is YOUR child.

thanks ya'll i was feeling like a bad mom for a little while...she was getting long black hairs on her legs and she takes tennis twice a week plus p.e. at school and with the shorts and skirts it was really bothering her. she was so happy to shave her legs...she's laying on my bed rubbing her legs and grinning right now. it's just my mom makes me feel so bad sometimes then when she started saying in two years my dtr. will want to be on the pill and have sex it just chapped my ass!!! she says i don't have control of my children and i let them do whatever they want and in the long run they will not respect me just as i am not respecting her now. i have asked many friends and they all said let her shave and i even started a thread about it here. she was just really unhappy with her hairy legs and it upset her enough to talk to me about it. i want my dtr to be able to talk to me about things that bother her so i can help instead of being a hindrance you know?

[Necee419]

Your mom is obviously from a much more conservative and (no offense) backward generation. These were the same women who thought you can lose your virginity from using tampons. (I know because I have many in my family ). You need to do what is best for YOUR child. While her advice is respected, ultimately you make all the final decisions. As for your daughter having sex just because she shaved her legs, that is ridiculous.

[Mandy]

Sorry you had an argument with your Mom, i think it's difficult for older people to understand this young generation. My parents are often in conflict with my son because they have a hard time understanding kids these days.

[Marilyn]

Just wanted to ditto what has been said here. I don't think any study would find any corrilation between what age a girl shaved her legs and when she had sex.

My daughters shaved their legs, pierced their ears, even cartlidge piercings in middle school, had purple & blue streaks in their hair durring the summer. We are very religiously conservative, and my girls always and still do dress modestly. You have to give them some harmless outlets that help them to fit in or feel a little radical. If you supress them too much then they do rebell and may want to fit in by having sex at an early age.

Surprizingly, when some of the old ladies at church ask, isn't that your daughter with the purple hair & I said yes, their response was, go girl. They knew my girls were nice and that a little purple dye is harmless.

I don't know if my mother would have approved or not, she passed away before my girls got to this age, but you have to do what YOU think is best. Only you know what your daughter needs.