Aaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[toodles]

so, i am watching my bff's boxer. she was supposed to be home tonight. i was EXPECTING her home tonight for a few reasons....first...to get her dog. it is very hard having Chloe here because she is so big, and all puppy...she is clobbering my other dog..and my daughter. not to be mean, just playing..but it scares me!!! plus, it is raining like mad here and she tracks mud all over the carpet. it is hard to get her to stop at the door to wipe her feet because she is so strong and hyper at the same time. second, i am expecting her back because she works for me and i really need her at work.

this afternoon she told me that they would not be in until 2am. and that she would miss our weekly meeting because of it...she would be sleeping in (understandable). i just sent her a text to let her know where her mail is and to ask if the ETA was still 2am. she wrote me back "We will not be there until tomorrow. We are staying at Sean's bother's house tonight. I will make it in until the afternoon. "

it just frustrates me. why is she just now telling me this? i am so tired of people not being reliable. when she watches our dogs, we are sure to call her every step of the way home to let her know when we will be there. and i feel horrible if traffic or something makes us run late.

his brother lives in Maryland,...so she is not even close to being home. and knowing her boyfriend (Sean)...he runs late everywhere he goes and he sleeps in late all the time. so they probably won't leave until around noon...which will put them here tomorrow night,.

just seems irresponsible and rude to me. they never would have told me of the delay had i not sent the message asking them about their ETA.

sorry so long...and maybe confusing......just needed to vent

[rivermom]

Hopefully your friends will have a safe drive back home. It is frustrating when our expectations at times are not met. Possibly give it a few days after she's back, her dog is back in her house, you've had time to think things over and the two of you can talk.

Maybe the two of you watching over each ones pets isn't the best in the future. There are really great boarding facilities these days who can pamper our pets. This way your friendship or employee/employer relationship isn't placed into a hard situation.

Hope it all works out.

[Janet]

Sheryl's right. I would probably make other arrangements for dog sitting. It is very upsetting when you feel you're being taken advantage of, by people not showing up on time or even bothering to let you know.

[katepoet]

If your friends aren't reliable maybe you are not picking the right friends for you. Plus, if you are such a responsible friend, you may be overdoing your part - or you need to find friends more like you. I always find dropping a friend hard to do, but it makes room in your life for new people. If I wait for awhile, without new or old friends, then I am more ready to connect with new people who are healthier for me.

Did you offer to take the dog? I find I have to bite my tongue a lot as my tendency to want to help can put me over my limit in what I can handle pretty quickly. There's nothing like doing too much for someone to ruin a friendship of any kind. It puts things out of balance, tips the scale too far and I can end up resentful.

[Mandy]

That sure is frustrating, next time you can tell her to look for a good boarding facility, and take her dog there. It's not good if your friend is taking advantage of you that way, the least she could have done, was let YOU know they would be late, it's not your duty to run after her, you are doing her the favor here.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Mandy

That sure is frustrating, next time you can tell her to look for a good boarding facility, and take her dog there. It's not good if your friend is taking advantage of you that way, the least she could have done, was let YOU know they would be late, it's not your duty to run after her, you are doing her the favor here.

I agree. Also, I would find someone else to watch your dog so you don't feel that you have to watch hers. She definitely took advantage of you!