Our Girls Just Left

[Marilyn]

Our girls were here for the weekend. It was Melissa's birthday on Saturday. Karen was here barely 24 hours due to a class she had on Saturday morning. It's soo nice to have them here, but when they leave, it's soooo hard. I miss them sooo much. I'm happy with what they are doing and where they are in life, but I can't stop crying.

I worked so much when they were growing up, and now they are gone.

If you have children at home, cherish each moment. It won't last as long as you want.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

Our girls were here for the weekend. It was Melissa's birthday on Saturday. Karen was here barely 24 hours due to a class she had on Saturday morning. It's soo nice to have them here, but when they leave, it's soooo hard. I miss them sooo much. I'm happy with what they are doing and where they are in life, but I can't stop crying.

I worked so much when they were growing up, and now they are gone.

If you have children at home, cherish each moment. It won't last as long as you want.

{{{{{{Marilyn}}}}}} I know how you feel. I've had 3 that have grown up and moved out. The first one leaving was the hardest on me but I have a feeling that when Jaci leaves that it's going to be harder yet and I'm not going to take it very well. I can't even think about it or I start crying. I'm not looking forward to having an "empty nest". Just be proud that they've become good adults that you can be proud of and are an asset to society. Children do grow up so quickly it seems and with 3 others that are grown I certainly know what you mean about cherishing each moment.

[Janet]

I dread the day Ricky leaves. I don't know if I'll be able to handle it well. It makes me so sad that I have to quickly get it out of my mind.

[Tink]

I'm sorry ladies.
And then you have mothers like me who are SO glad to see them go. LOL
I've had friends who just hated when their kids left home, so I do believe I'm the odd man out here.

[Marilyn]

It's almost 10:00, and I'm still crying off and on. I don't know why exactly it's harder this time than before. Melissa turned 21 and is getting married in June. Karen will be working on Saturday's now, so it is possible that this will be the last weekend when both will be home together before the wedding. I really don't know why it is hitting me so hard this time, but maybe this is part of it.

Hubby doesn't get it at all. He's pretty much oblivious to what I'm going through. He was too involved with the NFC playoff game this afternoon.

Maybe going to bed and getting back to work tomorrow will calm me down.

I know I'm feeling sorry for myself when I have so very much to be thankful for. It's really kinda silly and selfish. Thank you for being there to listen to my silliness.

[DianaB]

It's really hard to adjust to having the kids gone and it probably doesn't help that at this time of our life hormones make us cry too. I know that I have days where I cry and can't stop, especially in the past. All it would take is a mean word from someone and I'd start crying and cry all day. I hate to think that you have to go back to work to take your mind off of it but maybe a good rest would definitely help. BTW--Men just don't have a clue!!!!!

I hope that tomorrow is a much better day for you, Marilyn!!!

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Tink

I'm sorry ladies.
And then you have mothers like me who are SO glad to see them go. LOL
I've had friends who just hated when their kids left home, so I do believe I'm the odd man out here.

I don't think that there's any thing wrong with "mothers like you"! My last daughter, Dae Lynn, that moved out recently was told it was time to get a place of her own. At the age of 25 we had seen her through college where she moved in and out with us depending on where she went to college. She graduated this spring and was ready to move into someplace of her own but we had the flood and all available housing was taken by displaced families so she couldn't find any place to live. Something finally came up for rent with some people that we knew and she jumped right in and rented it. It was really rough with her moving in and out and living on her own. She learned to live on her own and needed to be on her own because she wasn't used to having rules to live by and having a parent tell her once again that her room needed to be cleaned or else!!! I told her many times that she needed to move out. I was kind but she knew that I wasn't kidding. I think that there is definitely a time for them to move out on their own!!!!! It's still hard to think about her having to handle everything on her own but we're still here for her. So see, you're not necessarily the "odd man out"!! I'm riding the fence on this thread!!!!

[Tink]

Marilyn, no need to apologize or feel bad for being honest about your feelings. We all have our days when we need to cry and just get it out. That's just part of being women I think. I cried when Lily left... I cried when my grand dd went home after a few days with me. Sometimes I cry watching commercials! LOL

[janc]

No, you're not the odd man out. Me too! I was thrilled to see them go out on their own. They are all doing well, standing on their own 2 feet, and the girls call often, sometimes the oldest calls every day. Bob and I are happy to be alone!

[Tink]

Exactly Janc! My idea of parenting has always been that I will know that I've done ok by them when they're happy to go out the door and build their own lives without needing to lean on me. Maybe that's what bugged me... they didn't seem too eager or happy to take that step. I wanted them to bounce out eagerly... not have to be nudged. LOL