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Old 09-19-2006, 05:18 PM   #1
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Thanks, but I don't like that.

Just curious here. For example during Christmas if you receive a present from someone in your immediate family and you don't like the present do you tell them? I love asking this question because the answers vary so much! In my family if you don't like it, you bring it back so you get something that you actually like. I would so much rather someone tell me that they didn't like what I gave them and get something that they would enjoy.

Funny story:
My ex gave me a diamond bracelet ring set for our first Christmas together. It was gold and silver and that's just not my thing. I opened it in front of his family and did the whole "omg this is great" thing but later told him I didn't really care for gold. This caught him very off gaurd and then I felt really mean. But in the end I got some beautiful diamond earrings on platinum studs!

So what do you ladies do? Would you be offended if your kids or husband told you they didn't like their present?
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Old 09-19-2006, 05:41 PM   #2
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NO---I would never be offended if some one told me they didn't like my gift. I would want them to have something they would really really want. I am not one to be offended or get offedned....I guess I am just more easy going.

And I would tell someone if I wasn't happy with something. I would hope they would respect that I told them, instead of the gift sitting in my closet with tags on or something...collecting dust. I am sure they did put some thought into it and they paid for it with their hard earned money, so I would let them know.
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Old 09-19-2006, 06:26 PM   #3
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I would be offended. I put so much thought into the gifts that I buy. if I thought they would say something like that, I would just give them a gift certificate. or maybe even nothing. The way I was raised that would be rude and ingreatful. but that is just me.
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Old 09-19-2006, 06:31 PM   #4
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I have a story just like yours! My ex loooved gold jewelry, but I liked silver. For christmas one year he got me a really expensive silver and gold watch, and I thought it was so ugly! But I pretended I liked it because I knew he spent a lot on it. Well, by now I've grown out of my hate for gold, and I was going to a friend's wedding in august with a black and white dress, gold shoes, gold purse, and gold jewelry. All I was missing was a watch! So I dug out the one I used to hate so much, got links taken out so it fit, and wore it for the first time, 4 years after we broke up
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Old 09-19-2006, 06:33 PM   #5
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That is why I usually enclose gift receipts with the gifts I give. That way the person can exchange it if they don't like it. i personally would never hurt anyone's feelings and tell them I don't like the gift. I am always touched that the person thought of me.
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Old 09-19-2006, 10:09 PM   #6
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That is why I usually enclose gift receipts with the gifts I give. That way the person can exchange it if they don't like it. i personally would never hurt anyone's feelings and tell them I don't like the gift. I am always touched that the person thought of me.
My sentiments exactly! I always include a gift receipt and let the person know that it won't hurt my feelings if they would like to exchange it for something more to their liking. Like Mandy, I'd rather do that and have them enjoy what they like than to have the gift shoved in some closet and sold at their next yard sale!
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Old 09-19-2006, 06:30 PM   #7
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I wouldn't tell anyone I didn't like their gift. I think that's rude. If you don't like it, take it back. Only if they ask why they never see such-and-such, then I MIGHT tell them. But, I just don't like to hurt anyone's feelings.

Went to hubby's grandmother's house for Christmas. Aunt Pat (VERY wealthy) always bought her two neices Christmas gifts. Cher didn't like her opal necklace one year. Cher had a bad look on her face and Pat asked her if she liked it. "NO, I DON'T!" She literally screamed this. I, including everyone else, got really quiet. This is coming from a woman in her late 30s.
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Old 09-19-2006, 07:04 PM   #8
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I wouldn't tell anyone I didn't like their gift. I think that's rude. If you don't like it, take it back. Only if they ask why they never see such-and-such, then I MIGHT tell them. But, I just don't like to hurt anyone's feelings.

Went to hubby's grandmother's house for Christmas. Aunt Pat (VERY wealthy) always bought her two neices Christmas gifts. Cher didn't like her opal necklace one year. Cher had a bad look on her face and Pat asked her if she liked it. "NO, I DON'T!" She literally screamed this. I, including everyone else, got really quiet. This is coming from a woman in her late 30s.


For someone being in their 30's, they should know better. There is always a mature and tactful way of telling someone with out hurting their feelings. Tell them one on one, with no one else around. I would want someone telling me that way, not in front of other people throwing a fit about it.

LAst Xmas, I bought my mother in law a very expensive purse. I thought she deserved it and had never had a good purse like that before. She said she liked it and thought it was very nice. I knew though she didn't like it. But thats ok. The next day, we went over for left overs, and she pulled me aside, saying she thought it was a very nice gesture, but its not something she would ever carry. So she asked if she could exchange it for one she would carry more often. I wasn't offened at all. i am glad she told me and then eventually she got one that was more her! And now she is sooooo much happier!
I think I would be more upset if she put it back in the box, and shoved in her closet and never gave it another thought.
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Old 09-19-2006, 07:41 PM   #9
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For someone being in their 30's, they should know better. There is always a mature and tactful way of telling someone with out hurting their feelings. Tell them one on one, with no one else around. I would want someone telling me that way, not in front of other people throwing a fit about it.

LAst Xmas, I bought my mother in law a very expensive purse. I thought she deserved it and had never had a good purse like that before. She said she liked it and thought it was very nice. I knew though she didn't like it. But thats ok. The next day, we went over for left overs, and she pulled me aside, saying she thought it was a very nice gesture, but its not something she would ever carry. So she asked if she could exchange it for one she would carry more often. I wasn't offened at all. i am glad she told me and then eventually she got one that was more her! And now she is sooooo much happier!
I think I would be more upset if she put it back in the box, and shoved in her closet and never gave it another thought.
That's a great example! That's what I'm talking about. Not being rude and screaming about it or anything. I would be offended if someone told me they didn't like what I got them in front of everyone in an ugly way, that's inappropriate. I just think the receiver of the gift should enjoy whatever it is or else it's a waste of your hard earned money!
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Old 09-20-2006, 06:24 AM   #10
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I wouldn't tell anyone I didn't like their gift. I think that's rude. If you don't like it, take it back. Only if they ask why they never see such-and-such, then I MIGHT tell them. But, I just don't like to hurt anyone's feelings.

I agree. I would never tell someone I didn't like their gift. I would just return it and never mention it again. If it is not returnable, I would regift it to someone! I did this with SOOOO many wedding presents!
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