grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[NicoleMarcelle]

Ok, this might get long, as i am pouring out thoughts and i am very upset right now...


So my parents (w/o consulting me or even asking me) decide that i'm going to Venezuela for a whole month... i only wanted to go for two weeks, they want me to go for the whole month of june...

then my mom gets on my case for not being home "all the time"-- well no duh!... i go to school full time, and work PT... so my free time is almost non existant, the little time i have is spent doing hw, and with Belle... i only go out on weekends, and now she doesnt really want me to do that either

Now here's the clincher...
She tells me that she doesnt like Matt... that he doesnt care about me, and that seh doesnt get why i'm with someone who doesnt give a crap about me... bc of something that he said when he was upset and in pain...but thats a diff. story...

she told me to move out, and go get married... like she doesnt care what i do... but to go work at publix (grocery store) bc they won't pay for school if i do move away/get married...

they get upset bc there are dog toys all over my room... DUH!! they said, put the toys away... uh... what?!? what are the toys for? ornaments...don't think so... =/

she told me my car is hers... ok, granted... that she's gonna take it away, and see if matt still cares about me then... wth...

i am very upset right now and just needed to vent...

thanks so much for reading...

[katcarasella]

Honey, it's truly not the end of the world even thought it seems like it right now.
Was Mom having a bad day? She sees her little girl is growing up, and it's hard for Mom's to let their babies go, and she doesn't want you to get hurt.
Have you tried to sit down and talk to her, you've got to communicate with her.
I went through similiar situations with each one of my dtr's and we're the best of buddies now. What you're going through right now with your Mom is really very normal. There's a period between the ages of 18 and 24 when sometimes moms and daughters seem to bump heads. She really only wants the best for you, I bet she was just angry when she said those things to you. She doesn't really mean it, but you've got to talk, when you're both calm.
I'm so sorry to hear that you're so miserable. Hugs

[NicoleMarcelle]

i have tried lots of times...

they don't like matt, havent liked him...ever really... bc he's taken a long time to finish school... and they think he's a bum... i understand some of their points... but theres just some things that i can't agree with them on... my dad and her arent getting along too well...only when they are on my case...

the thing that really gets to me though is that they treat my brother like he's my age, and me like i'm 16... he's a kid... i work, go to school and do well... yet they are more restrictive with me than with my brother... i know it may sound silly... all of this... but it really bothers me... i know they're supposed to be doing all this bc they want what's best for me... but i am so upset right now... they constantly say really hurtful things... like they're gonna get their points accross...

i am grateful for all the things they've given me and i know i'm lucky and have a pretty good life, but i'm not happy right now... haven't been for a while... i feel like i'm being bribed to do or stop doing things ie-> taking away car, not going out until... x,y,z... i'm 21 that may not be much but i'm a pretty good kid, always have been...and i still get treated like a baby...

[katcarasella]

They see the potential you have and they don't want you to make any mistakes,
I'm sure you're their pride and joy and they want to protect you. I wish I had a quick fix but I don't. Nikki, you'll always be their baby, get used to it. When all else failed I used to yell too. Hang in there and try to include mom in your life a little more, let her see you still have your head on straight. Don't fuel the fire, try to be positive around her. If she sees you moping around she's gonna think it's because of Matt. Let her know how much you love her.

[NicoleMarcelle]

thanks for your wise words Kat... i try... i really do, but sometimes i get really frustrated... plus it's coming down to crunch time with hw and the end of the semester... i'm the one she talks to when she's having probs with my dad... and i listen and do as much as i can... i'm not perfect granted... but i try to spend time with them, but at the same time, i need to get out everyonce in a while... oh well *sigh* it'll pass...

[NicoleMarcelle]

now she's on the phone telling her friend how we'd all be happier if my brother and i moved out and everyone lived however they want to...

[katcarasella]

Honey, I think you're perfect.
This is life and sometimes we hit bumps in the road, so hold on tight and hang in there. Sounds like she gave you some very good roots so now you just have to blossom.........