Body Image Flaws And Your Hubby.

[rivermom]

Does your hubby ever point out some of your body flaws? Like maybe a poochy tummy, small breasts cuz he'd like to see them bigger, etc??

My husband's pretty good but once in awhile he taps my belly and says "oh it's sooo cute". I just give him that "look" and he stops.

My girlfriend told me that her hubby said "If you lose 30 lbs, I'll take you to the beach." I thought how rude!!! I told her if she gained 30 lbs Id take her to the river, LOL.

She's so beautiful and if she lost 30 lbs she'd be less than 100 lbs and sick looking. I just don't understand some men obsessed w/ their womens body image.

[Mandy]

Only thing my husband jokes about is my boobs, he reckons i stood last inline lol... he calls them he's mini boobies.
He's never ever rude, and is always giving me compliments.

[Tink]

My hubby has NEVER made any negative comments about my appearance. I guess he values his life. Seriously, there's not ONE among us who is perfect, and that includes those men who want a trophy to wear on their arm. I can't imagine wanting to open THAT can of worms!

My best friend is a tiny lady who has always had to watch her weight because every pound shows. Her first hubby was a total pain about it. I wanted to smack him many times due to the stupid comments he'd make to/about her. They ended up divorced because she learned he'd been having a long term affair with a woman who was at least TWICE her weight! 20+ years later he is still with the larger lady and he has yet to marry her because he said he can't be married to someone her size. To me, this says nothing about the ladies, but volumes about what a total jerk HE is!

[RLC12345678]

Mine doesn't comment about my body image either. Sometimes I complain about it, but he always tells me that I'm beautiful. I would stand to lose 8-10 lbs and I'm sure hubby wouldn't object, but he'd NEVER tell me that I NEED to lose weight. I also have a big ole' booty. My hubby says he likes my booty, but I would stand to shed a few pounds from that big ole' thing. He is also a "boob man," if you know what I mean...he likes women with big boobs. Now, I would like a boob job for my personal satisfaction, and I'm sure hubby would enjoy some bigger boobs, but he would NEVER come out and say that I NEED a boob job. Whenever I mention the subject of boob job, he always says I don't need one. But I'm sure he would like them if I got them!

[hle_625]

My husband never says anything about my body image. He knows I would slap him! LOL! But sometimes I really do wish he would give me his honest opinion when I ask him how I look bc he always just says, you look great now hurry up!

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by hle_625

My husband never says anything about my body image. He knows I would slap him! LOL! But sometimes I really do wish he would give me his honest opinion when I ask him how I look bc he always just says, you look great now hurry up!

OMG! This is EXACTLY what my hubby does, too!!!!!!! I could be wearing a bathrobe and hubby would say I look great and to just hurry up so we can leave.

[Janet]

Right after we were married I was laid of from my job and I put on a bunch of weight and my hubby told a friend of his he thought of divorce because I gained so much. Well I wish he would have sought divorce, but anyway.. I did lose and got back to my original weight and from there on kept gaining.

I want to lose now because I want to for me..not for him. He's really skinny and looks awful. I should give him pay back, but I'm not like that and wouldn't hurt anyone feelings on purpose...

[Tink]

If I ask hubby how an outfit looks on me, he will be perfectly honest. He's told me when something doesn't look right or isn't flattering. He makes sure to comment on the clothes and NOT my body when he does it though.
He aboslutely hated the leggings with the big shirts ... those actually got him to comment without my asking him. But he didn't like that look on ANYONE, so it wasn't like he was attacking me personally.

i think this is my hubby's one flaw. he is pretty ruthlessly truthful about what he thinks of my body and how i look and is constantly concerned that i may have eaten too much and gained weight. it's really annoying when he tells me i look like i've gained weight especially along the stomach, and i just roll my eyes and respond..."uh... having period... retaining water! feeling bloated!" and then follow up with the comment that i'm going to go finish a box of crackers.

i mean, i want his honest opinion, but the delivery can use a bit of tack and reality. i'm in my early 30's now, not in my teens like when we first met. metabolism slows down as i age and that's just being realistic. a size 3 top won't button over c cup boobs without it looking trailerpark trashy. i work fulltime and don't always have the time to go to the gym 6x a week like i used to. ugh... sorry... just ranting...

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by hunbun

i think this is my hubby's one flaw. he is pretty ruthlessly truthful about what he thinks of my body and how i look and is constantly concerned that i may have eaten too much and gained weight. it's really annoying when he tells me i look like i've gained weight especially along the stomach, and i just roll my eyes and respond..."uh... having period... retaining water! feeling bloated!" and then follow up with the comment that i'm going to go finish a box of crackers.

i mean, i want his honest opinion, but the delivery can use a bit of tack and reality. i'm in my early 30's now, not in my teens like when we first met. metabolism slows down as i age and that's just being realistic. a size 3 top won't button over c cup boobs without it looking trailerpark trashy. i work fulltime and don't always have the time to go to the gym 6x a week like i used to. ugh... sorry... just ranting...

Unless he has the perfect body he needs to keep these thoughts to himself.

My hubby won't say anything bad or good for that matter. If I'm unhappy with my body he supports me to change it, but he would never critize or tell me to loss weight. He's put on a couple of pounds himself. No one has the perfect body.

[rivermom]

My hubby compliments me every single day...So, on those days when he smiles and pats my poochy tummy I shall forgive him, LOL.

I know when we met (almost 9 years ago) i had a body that was really great. But, I've since gotten older, happier, and focused on other lifes details. So, my poochy belly isn't that much of a priority these days. (Thank goodness for that too!!)

well, hubby's working on getting his early 20's body back. he's targeting 130lbs at 5'6" with a 28 inch waist. he's at 136lbs right now and a 29 inch waist. So he's pretty close. he's soooooo look obessessed right now, it's kinda crazy. he's had to get a new wardrobe in the last 6 months and toss out all his 32 waist clothes and get 29's. so he thinks he's doing well and he can't understand why i can experience the same results.

but i think men's metabolism is different from women's metabolism. and people's shape changes too as they age. as women age, our hips become wider, and we gain weight in the torso area more easily because the body is anticipating childbearing. i've read that men's testostrone start to slowly drop off once they hit their late 30's, hence they will start to gain weight, etc. so we'll see....