They'll be home today!!!!!!!

[Marilyn]

The honeymooners will be home today. Their ship docks at 8 a.m. and they get off at 9:30. Sure hope they call. We'll be in Bible class and worship service from 9:00 til 11:15, but maybe they will leave a voicemail or text message. They will have about a 3 to 3-1/2 hour drive to their home. Melissa will be living about 5 to 10 minutes from her in-laws, but 2 hours from us. So this evening they will probably go to church and out to eat with them. So wish we could be there. Guess we will have to catch up by phone. Hopefully we can see them next weekend. Karen's birthday is July 9, so we may do something next weekend.

I'm so excited to hear all about their trip.

I organized their apartment a bit and cleaned Friday night and yesterday. I had promised Melissa I would do this so she would rest some the evening before the wedding. She did not want to walk into a mess when she got home.

[Forgivenmom5]

I know you will be glad to see them. I wish them the best as they start their new life together.

[Dobie]

Have you heard anything from them yet? How was the trip?

[Marilyn]

They text messaged yesterday morning to say that they were off the ship and getting to their car. Then they texted again needing some directions. When I called back, they had found their way. They had a wonderful time. Their dive was really beautiful. They didn't talk long, and were headed home. We heard from them again when they got home. Two of Melissa's fish were sick. They were fine when I was there Saturday. I got a call from Melissa wanting to know where something was and saying that she thought the fish were dying. Later a text that they thought it was something bacterial and they had gotten something to treat the fish. Finally late last night, a text message that one of the fish had died.

These fish were at their wedding. The one that died is one Melissa has had for a couple of years. I know she's upset. She did thank me for cleaning their apartment.

Our conversations yesterday were very brief. When she called I was at a baby shower that I was helping to host.

Hopefully today we can catch up a bit. I know it's selfish and I'm feeling sorry for myself, but I don't like that her in-laws are 5 minutes away and we are 2 hours. I'm afraid that by the time we hear about the trip, it will be old news. I know they have already seen the in-laws, and probably told them all about it and they will be seeing all their friends this week.

I have a dear friend who had almost the same exact situation with her daughter when she first got married, she understands my feelings, and talking with her is helping a lot. Her daughter lived 5 minutes from her inlaws, and my friend was 2 hours away for the first 2 years of their marriage.

[Gina]

Marilyn glad to hear that the newylweds are back from their honeymoon. I bet you can't wait to hear all about it I am sure that they had a great time.

I can understand about the way that your feeling about them living 5 min away from in-laws and two hrs. from you. That is normal to feel a little jealously. But remember Marilyn you are her mother and no matter what she will always have that special relationship with you. Her in laws may be wonderful, and hopefully they treat her like a daughter for you would want that being she is living a distance from you. In time I am sure that you will be living closer to each other.

So please be happy and you will soon hear everything detail of the honeymoon.. oh well not every detail...lol and you will have your daughter back plus a son.

PS sorry about the fish.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Gina

Marilyn glad to hear that the newylweds are back from their honeymoon. I bet you can't wait to hear all about it I am sure that they had a great time.

I can understand about the way that your feeling about them living 5 min away from in-laws and two hrs. from you. That is normal to feel a little jealously. But remember Marilyn you are her mother and no matter what she will always have that special relationship with you. Her in laws may be wonderful, and hopefully they treat her like a daughter for you would want that being she is living a distance from you. In time I am sure that you will be living closer to each other.

So please be happy and you will soon hear everything detail of the honeymoon.. oh well not every detail...lol and you will have your daughter back plus a son.

PS sorry about the fish.

I agree with Gina, Marilyn. You have to learn to "share" your daughter with the other family. Be happy for the times that they have together and encouraging. (Even though sometimes it's really, really hard to do.) If you develop a good relationship with his mother she'll be more willing to cooperate with you on holidays and your own gatherings. It's definitely give and take!