Grandkids/facebook/myspace/depression

[donna1990]

I only have 1 granddaughter, she is 14, adopted grandson 16, and my husbands granddaughter that is 21, I helped raise her and she is precious.
My granddaughter and adobted grandson added me on Facebook and Myspace.
It makes me sick. The 14 year old has posted pictures and music that make me sick. One of the songs talk about guns, cocaine, killing, gave your mother a yeast infection, etc. The 16 year old posts about bringing condoms, I am just horrified by this. I sent the 14 year old a message and told her that her page was disgusting, and her mother approves.
What a sick generation.
Hope this makes sense, I am just crazy right now.
Thanks friends.

[donna1990]

I did not explain that right. Her mother, "not capital letters because she is a slut", approves her page.

[DianaB]

My 16 year old daughter has wanted to post on Facebook and MySpace but I won't let her because of stuff like that. She stays busy enough with text messages and instant messaging on the computer. I figure that it's easier to prevent things like that than it is to try and take it back.

[Janet]

That's a good idea Diana. I let Ricky have a MySpace, but I have his password and check it frequently. I've never seen anything bad. He's done real good with it. He also has a Facebook, but isn't there hardly at all.

Even if we tell them they can't have one....they can sign up without us knowing about it. That's part of the reason I told Ricky he could have one....too much trouble to keep two of them up...lol.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Janet

That's a good idea Diana. I let Ricky have a MySpace, but I have his password and check it frequently. I've never seen anything bad. He's done real good with it. He also has a Facebook, but isn't there hardly at all.

Even if we tell them they can't have one....they can sign up without us knowing about it. That's part of the reason I told Ricky he could have one....too much trouble to keep two of them up...lol.

Jaci and I have talked about this and she knows that it's not allowed and she's not one to go behind my back and do things. I tell you that being a parent to her is a breeze, but of course, it's like that because I was so strict with the other kids and they have warned her "about Mom"!!!! I have mellowed out A LOT since I had the other kids. I'm firm but fair.

[Janet]

That's good that you two have talked. Ricky and I have too. So good to be able to have that kind of communication and for them to know what to expect. The two girls down the road were not suppose to have a MySpace and they both ended up with one. I think they did it at the library or a friends house.

I've seen their site when I've checked some of Ricky's friends and I would be horrified if they were my daughters. Their mother still doesn't know they have it.

I really like to think of myself as pretty open minded and love all kinds of music but this screaming and yelling hatrid stuff is just awful and scary to me! My husband is a musician and guitar & music instructor. He recently was working with a student he was helping with an auditiion to a fairly prestigious music school. The student gave him a tape of the piece he wanted to play for his audition, when my husband put the tape in and began to play it, we nearly died. It was this guy screaming hateful things about suicide and killing his father. It was so terrible I made him turn it off immediately. Thankfully, my husband was able to persuade the student to use another piece (Aint Mis Behavin...talk about a complete turn around) for his audition. I think young people today are just numb to this stuff....