If you could go back, would you marry your husband again?

[RLC12345678]

Knowing what you know now, would you go back and make the same decision you made so many years ago to marry your husband?

I've only been married 1 year and 2 months, and at this point I say, YES! I would do it exactly the same if I had to do it again. Of course, most people would say that I'm still in the honeymoon stage.

LoL...I'm with you; I've only been married for a little over a year....so my answer is also yes Ask me again in 4 years

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by May5

LoL...I'm with you; I've only been married for a little over a year....so my answer is also yes Ask me again in 4 years

Everyone says the first year is the hardest, was it especially hard for you?? Man, if the first year was the worst for us, we will have pretty smooth sailing from here on out!

OMG! I'm feel exactly the same way! Everyone keeps telling us how the first year is so hard an all....but it's been GREAT for us (sure we argue and what not, but no biggie).

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by May5

OMG! I'm feel exactly the same way! Everyone keeps telling us how the first year is so hard an all....but it's been GREAT for us (sure we argue and what not, but no biggie).

Ditto. We argue, but who doesn't?!

what a great question i have been with my hubby for 18years and married for 15 years and i would marry him again in an instant we have had our problems like everybody else but we have stuck together through it all , i mean i have the mother in law from hell she never liked me from the start and has now not spoken to me or my kids for 11 years now i mean she walks rightby them and get this she lives next door to us imagine the tension in a marriage with that! my husband decided years ago it was a all or nothing policy in our house as to say you are friends with all of us or none of us they do not speak sad isnt it.but as long as you support eachother you wont go far wrong you must have a united front, in fact her excuse for not going to our wedding was why bother it will only last five minutes so every anniversary he writes in my card not doing bad with our five minutes are we!

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by May5

OMG! I'm feel exactly the same way! Everyone keeps telling us how the first year is so hard an all....but it's been GREAT for us (sure we argue and what not, but no biggie).

Every healthy relationship has arguments. We can't agree all the time, we all have different opinions, and after all, we are only human

[Janet]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Knowing what you know now, would you go back and make the same decision you made so many years ago to marry your husband?

I've only been married 1 year and 2 months, and at this point I say, YES! I would do it exactly the same if I had to do it again. Of course, most people would say that I'm still in the honeymoon stage.

I have a friend that never called it the "honeymoon stage" her phrase was "she was still in a state of bliss".....LOL I thought it was so cute.

Well, I'm sure most of you already know my answer. No, I would not do it again. I would wait till I was older and grown more into "me". I've grown so much and can't say the same for him. That's not an insult toward him, but some people grow, others, not so much. I have higher goals/ideals and he settles. 32 years is a long time and it hasn't all been bad. It hasn't even been horrible. But no, I would not do it again.

[Cribal]

Well, I wasn't going to post until I saw Janets post. I didn't want to be the only one to say no. Last month was our first year anniversary and it was the longest year. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't marry my husband. I feel really bad for saying that but I wish I would have stuck with what I had said most of my life and never gotten married. I guess it's too late now so I have to suck it up and deal with it. I'm pretty good with rolling with th punches so I'll be alright.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Cribal

Well, I wasn't going to post until I saw Janets post. I didn't want to be the only one to say no. Last month was our first year anniversary and it was the longest year. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't marry my husband. I feel really bad for saying that but I wish I would have stuck with what I had said most of my life and never gotten married. I guess it's too late now so I have to suck it up and deal with it. I'm pretty good with rolling with th punches so I'll be alright.

My only advice....you've been married such a short time, seek marriage counceling if you want it to work. If not....don't wait 32 years like I did. Don't get me wrong, I don't "regret" it in that sense of the word, I just would not have married him then, knowing what I know now.

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Janet

My only advice....you've been married such a short time, seek marriage counceling if you want it to work. If not....don't wait 32 years like I did. Don't get me wrong, I don't "regret" it in that sense of the word, I just would not have married him then, knowing what I know now.

I agree. You've only been married for a year. If you're miserable, either get counseling or break it off. I have known MANY couples who decide they have made a wrong decision after a year or two and divorce. Is it too late to get it annulled?

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by Cribal

Well, I wasn't going to post until I saw Janets post. I didn't want to be the only one to say no. Last month was our first year anniversary and it was the longest year. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't marry my husband. I feel really bad for saying that but I wish I would have stuck with what I had said most of my life and never gotten married. I guess it's too late now so I have to suck it up and deal with it. I'm pretty good with rolling with th punches so I'll be alright.

I like you thought I had made a mistake the first year I was married. We were together 18 months before things got better & now they are great. There is usually an adjustment period. However, if you are unhappy & think you will continue to be unhappy, then seek counseling or get the marriage annuled. Life is too short to spend it unhappy. Just remember that nothing is ever the way you imagine it to be.

[Cribal]

I think councling would be a good idea for us. I don't know if my husband would be to keen on it though. I guess if I told him it was one way or the other then he would probly be ok with it. I am unhappy the majority of the time but he does have his good moments. It's usually only two days out of a month though...=LOL. I really don't want to get divorced. I don't know why but I've always figured that everything can always be worked out. (besides cheating and abuse) I'm hoping it's just the whole first year thing and that things will get better. But, like I said, I'm gonna stick through it. I know that I don't want to be unhappy for the rest of my life but I will find a way to change that without getting divorced.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Cribal

I think councling would be a good idea for us. I don't know if my husband would be to keen on it though. I guess if I told him it was one way or the other then he would probly be ok with it. I am unhappy the majority of the time but he does have his good moments. It's usually only two days out of a month though...=LOL. I really don't want to get divorced. I don't know why but I've always figured that everything can always be worked out. (besides cheating and abuse) I'm hoping it's just the whole first year thing and that things will get better. But, like I said, I'm gonna stick through it. I know that I don't want to be unhappy for the rest of my life but I will find a way to change that without getting divorced.

Don't be too sure....

Life is way too short to live it as unhappy. Seek help and if he won't go, go alone.

[BabyNicole]

Originally Posted by Cribal

Well, I wasn't going to post until I saw Janets post. I didn't want to be the only one to say no. Last month was our first year anniversary and it was the longest year. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't marry my husband. I feel really bad for saying that but I wish I would have stuck with what I had said most of my life and never gotten married. I guess it's too late now so I have to suck it up and deal with it. I'm pretty good with rolling with th punches so I'll be alright.

Oh Crystal, I didn't know that.