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Old 10-10-2006, 08:08 AM   #1
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Burial, past or present?

Okay let me see if I can ask this in a way that doesn't sound strange. One year ago we lost my father-in-law. He was married first to my husbands mother, who was tragically killed in a car/train accident when he was about 9 or 10. His Dad remarried a few years later to a lady with two children and then they had one together.

He had a burial plot next to his first wife, but when he passed, a new plot was purchased for him and for when my hubby's step-mother passes so they can be buried together.

I just feel (and my hubby too) so sad that his mother is buried alone. So I guess the question is, how would you all have handled it. We kind of feel if he wanted buried somewhere else, he would have pre-bought their places, like he did with his first wife. His first wife was the love of his life and he was so totally devastated when she passed. If it wasn't for him having 3 children, they don't think he would have made it through the pain. No one is upset about how things were done, this is just thoughts my husband and I discussed. Sooo...what d'ya think?
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Old 10-10-2006, 08:39 AM   #2
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It's kinda a hard call. My immediate thoughts are that he should be burried with his first wife. If he bought two spots together so they could rest next to each other, then thats where he should have been layed to rest. Upon closer thought, he did enter another relationship with a women who he loved (that what it sounds like) and maybe his feelings changed through this relationship. It's a hard call. Did anyone speak to him while he was alive about what he wanted?
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Old 10-10-2006, 08:47 AM   #3
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Did he have a will?

I would think in those situations that he should have expressed to someone or in writting where and with whom he wanted to be buried.
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Old 10-10-2006, 08:50 AM   #4
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No...he didn't let anyone know anything. The two plots were bought after his death, whereas the ones with his first wife were bought shortly after they married. We're not going to do anything about it, but after talking about it, I thought it would be interesting to know how others feel. Yes he did love his second wife, not as much we don't think as the first, because they fought a lot.
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I would have buried him with the first wife. Maybe that's just cause I'm sentimental like that, but especially if they fought a lot....
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I would have buried him with the first wife. Maybe that's just cause I'm sentimental like that, but especially if they fought a lot....

Yeah that's what I would have done, but with hubby having step-brother and step-sister, I don't think he wanted to cause hurt feelings. If they would have asked me....which they didn't....LOL....I would probably put my father-in-law in between the two. I just hate the thought of my husbands mother being buried alone. Maybe if hubby goes first I'll let him be with her and I'll be buried with my mom and dad...LOL
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