Lonesome and Bored

[judy]

My summer friends are now all gone. The last of them left on Tuesday. I went to the pool Wednesday, but it just wasn't fun. I remember that I didn't want the summer people to come up. I thought they would ruin my perfect, peaceful environment. Instead, I really enjoyed making new friends with some wonderful people. Of course, they will be back, and I am looking forward to seeing them again.

I also had an instant life in the summer. All I had to do was to throw on a bathing suit and go over to the pool where we would hang out, go back and forth into the water to cool off, enjoy the kids, who all played together, and come home and relax.

Now, I have to begin my social life again, involving driving around, mingling, and meeting new people, etc. I have found 2 meditation groups and a yoga group I want to find out about. I have my Catskill Womens Group, and my writer's workshops, which I love. It can get lonely though, because very few people live in my condo community in the winter.

I stayed home and watched TV all of Friday and yesterday. Now, I am over doing that and am going out for a bit. It is a beautiful day and I have to force myself to go mingle.

It was so effortless in the summer. I think that's what is really getting me down.

[gja1000]

Your life is so interesting Judy - I can imagine having a completely different life in summer and winter and how different and fun it would be. I bet after a few seasons, that winter will be almost as effortless as summer. Yes, the pool is closer than the "mingling" places, but after you are established, so to speak, it may be just as easy. I just think it is so neat to have two completely different "seasons" of friendships. Me, I just have the same ole, same ole all year long! LOL!!!!

[Janet]

I feel the same way Gayle. I think your life sounds so interesting and enjoyable Judy. Same ole..same ole is all I get too.

[Blueyes]

Oh Judy, I just hate that lonesome feeling! I wish you could find just one really good friend to help fill your days and/or nights

[judy]

Originally Posted by gja1000

Your life is so interesting Judy - I can imagine having a completely different life in summer and winter and how different and fun it would be. I bet after a few seasons, that winter will be almost as effortless as summer. Yes, the pool is closer than the "mingling" places, but after you are established, so to speak, it may be just as easy. I just think it is so neat to have two completely different "seasons" of friendships. Me, I just have the same ole, same ole all year long! LOL!!!!

I never thought of it that way Gayle! I think you are right, and so are you Betsi.
I do need just a consistent relationship all year. Maybe a great man

[DianaB]

I would think that now there's not as many people to socialize with that you could concentrate more on your pottery, writing, and yoga, the things that are more for you. However, if I know you you'll find some friends soon and will be having a great time!!! It sounds like an interesting life!!!

[Marilyn]

Judy, your life does sound interesting, and you have your family near. I'm sure there will be school events to attend. It's difficult to be content where we are, wherever that is. I'm wanting more time to myself to do the things I want to do, and others want other things. We all need to be careful what we wish for and try to find contentment where we are. I'm saying this as much to myself as to anyone who may choose to read this.

[Gina]

Judy I agree with the other ladies.. You need to find a good friend or two to have all year round.. I am sure by joining the clubs that you have you will meet.. A great man is not a bad idea, sometimes hard to come by. lol Whatever you do I am sure you will make new friends and have a wonderful winter being involved with all your clubs.