whos the boss

in your household? do you wear the trousers in your relationship? or does your partner? or are you both the same? id say my partner and i are mosty the same but i think im in the trousers a bit more than him lol. this might sound bad but i do think men have to be trained lol let them think its there idea in the first place and then you get what you want without them even knowing lol mindyou mine is a softy anyway and i just need to look at him with puppy eyes and he says yes to anything anyway lol

[DianaB]

I think that in our household it's pretty much shared. My husband is a pretty easy going guy and after 32 years of marriage there really isn't too much that we really argue or disagree over. When we do disagree, which isn't very often, my husband makes the final decision because he is the leader of our home. Sometimes I don't always agree, but in order to be a godly wife I am to obey my husband. I can only think of two or three times that he made a decision that I didn't agree with. As I said he's pretty easy going.

I know that everyone doesn't agree with this but this is the way that the home is set up in the Bible. My husband doesn't abuse his authority and I honor the authority that God has given him.

[Janet]

I'd have to say most times I'm in charge and sometimes I get pretty sick of it. I have to decide most everything except when it comes to money and big purchases. Although I did buy my babies even though he wasn't sure it was the right thing to do....now he does....he just has to be convinced.

[RLC12345678]

When people ask this question, my hubby and I always give the same answer....we both wear one leg of the trousers, but my leg is just a little bit bigger than his leg.

But seriously, we both are in charge. There are things that he cares very strongly about that he will not budge on (like me getting anymore pets right now) and there are things that I feel very strongly about that I will not budge on. Otherwise, we let each other make our own decisions. We are a good team when it comes to making dinner and cleaning the house, so neither of us has to boss the other around to get these things done. And we are big boys and girls and we know how to manage our money. We each know what kinds of things are out of our price range and we just don't buy those things and there's just no arguement about it. So, there really is no need for one or the other of us to be "in charge."

[magnolia]

Well, let's see - when we got married, we were a lot like Rebecca - we both shared the "trouser wearer" title. Then, when first child came along, he was the boss (LOL!). And forget it when 2nd child came along - then they BOTH were the boss. Oh, reverse, back up.....before firstborn, our first yorkie, Katie, was definitely the boss!!! Okay, now after child 2......oh, now Gabby and Gage are the boss. Um......er......wait a sec......you mean of the household as far as discipline and finances go, right??? Okay, um.....that would mean it would still be Gabby and Gage - they keep the boys in line and all our money goes to them

Seriously, hubby and I have always shared everything in the house - from finances, to discipline, down to decorating (furniture, paint, etc.). If there's something he wants, we talk about it first - he doesn't just go out and get it (unless it's clothes for himself) - and the same for me. Big ticket items, we talk about first.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by magnolia

Well, let's see - when we got married, we were a lot like Rebecca - we both shared the "trouser wearer" title. Then, when first child came along, he was the boss (LOL!). And forget it when 2nd child came along - then they BOTH were the boss. Oh, reverse, back up.....before firstborn, our first yorkie, Katie, was definitely the boss!!! Okay, now after child 2......oh, now Gabby and Gage are the boss. Um......er......wait a sec......you mean of the household as far as discipline and finances go, right??? Okay, um.....that would mean it would still be Gabby and Gage - they keep the boys in line and all our money goes to them

Seriously, hubby and I have always shared everything in the house - from finances, to discipline, down to decorating (furniture, paint, etc.). If there's something he wants, we talk about it first - he doesn't just go out and get it (unless it's clothes for himself) - and the same for me. Big ticket items, we talk about first.

In our house, it's much the same as Magnolia's .... Big ticket items get discussed first. When it comes down to getting things for our fur girls and our son, we just agree without having to speak about it