11-09-2006, 01:51 PM | #16 |
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I think if their out of school then they should be out of the house or helping paying for things. At 16 I had a job, checking acct, I was paying for my first car and paying for my own car ins. I'm glad that my mom taught me how to keep up with bills and manage my money. I admit I did get my first credit card at 18 and went crazy but I never missed a payment b/c my mom also made sure I knew never to mess up my credit. Now I've paid for two cars, I'm paying on a mortgage on a house, married and I think doing quite well for myself.
Now my best friend Lindsey is another story. She is my age (almost 25) and still living with her parents and still working a part time job. She has never had a bill in her life except her cell phone bill. Her parents treat her and her brother (still living at home and working at a pizza place at the age of 28) like their still kids. They have no responsibility at all. And it would be different if they were saving up money to move out or something but neither one of them even have a checking acct. They have no savings even though they have NO BILLS. I don't know if they will ever move out of their house. Me and Lindsey's plans since we were kids was to move out together when we were 18. I moved out at 18 and she's still never left...LOL So be careful. If you don't have them making some kind of effort to move out or be on their own then you could end up having them until their 28 too...LOL Sorry this was so long
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OMG Crystal, I couldn't handle that! THIS is driving me bonkers and they're 18 and 20. LOL
My kids have done their own laundry since they were 12. They might not like doing it, but if they want clean clothes, they get it done. Both of my older 2 are good enough cooks that they've cooked in restaurants (one in a city cafe and bar and grill, the other in a steak house) and the youngest can cook enough to keep herself fed if she absolutely has to. She's just not as good at it as the other 2. It's not a matter of them not knowing how to do things... they simply try to get away with not having to do any more than they have to. I keep telling hubby that there's no reason for them to ever move out if they're TOO comfortable here. For example, Katie moved out for a few weeks and moved back home. When she moved back, she left her bed behind. NOW she expects US to buy her a new one. I refuse! Hubby was all ready to do it and I won't let him. If she wants a bed, she can buy it! Right now she's sleeping on the sofa, which I don't like. I want her sleeping in her bedroom, but she rarely makes it that far.
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11-24-2006, 12:01 PM | #20 |
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My kids had to pay rent weekly and my husband got our son up at 7 on Sat. morning to help him outside. He also cut grass (2 acres, riding lawn mower). He wasn't always happy but cheered up after about an hour. He has always thanked us for everything we did for him and never griped about the rent. He did move out when he was 19. Our daughter went into the Army at 18 and is 28 and in Iraq for the second time. She also tells us what awesome parents we are and were.
My husband's brother never grew up. He still lives with his parents and he is 56 and just had bypass. He has no life except when he comes to our house. His mother still tells him to set the table. My kids stand on their own. Scott is married and father of one. Liz is divorced and mother of 2. My older daughter was a hell on wheels. At 16 she was given the 3 choices. She chose to live with her father in AZ. We lived in FL at the time. 3 months later she arrived back in town compliments of the state. Her father had thrown her out. I refused to take her back (drug dealers etc. invited to my house by her, many other things) and she is now 34, living with her significant other of 17 years, and has 2 children ages 13 boy and 8 girl. She is TOUGH on them. They behave well and love her very much. She calls me at least twice a week. I guess we did something right although I didn't think so at the time. |
11-29-2006, 06:53 PM | #21 |
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I think it really depends
like if they were in community college, I'd say they could stay until they were done witht hat school (so 2 more years) but if they weren't doing anything I would say they better leave. Unless they're doing a year off thing, or have kids, or any other special circumstance. It really depends ont he kind of people you are, and the kind of people they are. If they have their life on track, are in college, have a job, etc. but haven't moved out yet, it's likely they're saving up for it... I say don't charge them, I think that would really hurt them, unless they're in their 20s (meaning, OVER the age of 20) and not planning to leave. But they should be helping out around the house. Definitly
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12-14-2006, 12:07 AM | #22 |
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I think 18-19 is a good age cause that is usually when they go off to college. It's easier to do it that way by dorming because then you become independent and you have an excuse for it.
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12-14-2006, 01:26 PM | #23 |
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There's no flat age to kick someone out, I'd say out by 28 at the latest, but it really depends on the person.
I moved out this past August and am living in a dorm (I'm turning 20 next month). My parents pay my tuition cause I don't qualify for financial aid, and they also pay my room and board. They won't let me get a job so they give me $60 every two weeks to get by. I hate it. I would rather have a job and be working to take over my own expenses. Even if they don't like it I'm going to try to get a job when I get back to school. I'm planning on getting an apartment in July so I need to be saving up for that so the bills wont sneak up on me, I want enough money to have the rent and expenses covered for at least 4-5 months in case I hit a rough spot. I'd encourage your kids to get better jobs and start saving up. Chances are they want to move out, I know my sister(21) wants to and is planning to in August or so. If you think they feel too comfortable you could always start to get a little annoying about doing chores to light a fire under their rears and get them wanting to move out. I'd say my parents do a good job with that
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