Spoiling our parents

[Tink]

With the thread about giving our kids too much, I began to wonder if anyone but me spoils their parents?

My Mom is on a low fixed income. She scrapes to get by and loves to be able to give gifts at Christmas like the rest of us do, but she really doesn't have the cash to do it. I have been sending her money each month to help ease her financial situation so she was able to buy small gifts for everyone which made her very happy. I had also bought her a gift as usual.

Then I learned that her vacuum cleaner took it's last breath and she's been borrowing one to do her cleaning. So today I went and bought her a vacuum cleaner that I will also wrap up for Christmas.

I appreciate all she's done for me, so enjoy giving back now that I'm able. I seriously think she deserves it and love seeing the joy and surprise on her face when I do these little things for her. Is anyone else "spoiling" their parents? I think those of us lucky enough to have had good ones can do a lot to help let them know it did matter to us.

I try to do all that I can to spoil my Mom, since she has always been so wonderful to me. Earlier this year, hubby and I bought my Mom a new car. I don't remember her ever having a brand new car, so it was so wonderful to be able to do that for her!!

[DianaB]

My Mom works and is pretty well off, so there's no need to help her financially. My Dad (they were divorced and he passed away this spring) was never able to handle his money so we were always helping him out. We always gave my Dad money for all of his gifts because he knew better than we did what he needed.

[Janet]

My Mom has more money than she knows what do to with, but expects other people to pay her way. So no, we don't spoil her.

Both my parents work and are very well off financially, but I think my hubby and I still spoil them, mostly with time and attention. We spend every single weekend with them and take them out to eat and just do stuff with them (his parents too, they actually just recently moved here). I love my family; they've given me so much and I'm just glad to be able to give them whatever I can in return....feels like it'll never be enough for everything they've done

[Gina]

Girls I don't have parents to spoil they have both passed. So whatever you do be it spoiling with presents or just spending time with them. Be thankful....

[Emmsmom]

You must be joking! But then again you already know my reasons.

Now if I had a loving parent then yeah I would do what Icould to help out.

[khardy57]

There's absolutely nothing I wouldn't do for my parents! Each morning, I get up an hour early so I can go by their house and "check" on them. Daddy is 76 and Mama is 71. They are both retired. They worked all their lives and my mother worked 2 jobs while Daddy was recuperating from cancer surgery years ago. I can truly say that I have wonderful parents. When I pull up each morning, Daddy is outside waiting for me and he kisses me on the cheek.

When we go inside, Mama is just getting up and Daddy does the same thing EVERY morning. "Looka there Kim - just look at her! Ain't she beautiful" and then he breaks into "Here she comes - Miss America" He whispers, because he had throat cancer.

Now is that love or what?

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by khardy57

There's absolutely nothing I wouldn't do for my parents! Each morning, I get up an hour early so I can go by their house and "check" on them. Daddy is 76 and Mama is 71. They are both retired. They worked all their lives and my mother worked 2 jobs while Daddy was recuperating from cancer surgery years ago. I can truly say that I have wonderful parents. When I pull up each morning, Daddy is outside waiting for me and he kisses me on the cheek.

When we go inside, Mama is just getting up and Daddy does the same thing EVERY morning. "Looka there Kim - just look at her! Ain't she beautiful" and then he breaks into "Here she comes - Miss America" He whispers, because he had throat cancer.

Now is that love or what?

Awwww!! That is sooooo sweet!!!

[Willow]

I don't have the greatest relationship with my mom, but I always try to do special things for her for Christmas and her birthdays. Last year for Christmas I got my brothers and step dad to go in with me and we all chipped in to buy mom a mother's ring.

This year I gave them a joint gift of a brand new bedspread set complete with matching pillow shams.

[HALEY]

I love my mom dearly, and if she needs anything, My sister and i will find a way to get it for her, so we try to spoil our mom when we can.

Unfortunately I don't have a mom any longer either. But I do have a DAD and I do what I can for him.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by HALEY

I love my mom dearly, and if she needs anything, My sister and i will find a way to get it for her, so we try to spoil our mom when we can.

You're a good daughter, Haley!!!!

[judy]

My Mom died when she was 56. She was sick all of my life, and, truthfully, she was verbally and emotionally abusive. I loved her and seemed to understand that she was always frightened because she was so sick. That's what was behind the abuse. I thought that if she took it out on me, it would leave her, and she would be happier.

I certainly spoiled her until I was a teenager and couldn't take it anymore, only because I never could take the fear and anger away from her. In other words, it didn't work. I also needed to get away from her abuse - it did do damage to me! So, I moved out when I was 19.

I feel very bad for the young child I was who tried so hard to help my mother and who was abused, but I don't regret "spoiling" her. I only regret that it didn't work.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by judy

My Mom died when she was 56. She was sick all of my life, and, truthfully, she was verbally and emotionally abusive. I loved her and seemed to understand that she was always frightened because she was so sick. That's what was behind the abuse. I thought that if she took it out on me, it would leave her, and she would be happier.

I certainly spoiled her until I was a teenager and couldn't take it anymore, only because I never could take the fear and anger away from her. In other words, it didn't work. I also needed to get away from her abuse - it did do damage to me! So, I moved out when I was 19.

I feel very bad for the young child I was who tried so hard to help my mother and who was abused, but I don't regret "spoiling" her. I only regret that it didn't work.

{{{{{{Judy}}}}}}