Office romance.. don't do it!

[Shada]

Originally Posted by rivermom

I don't think you made a mistake at all. What wrong is falling in love? What wrong is trusting someone? What wrong is opening up your heart? Nothing.

Don't blame yourself, don't blame him. Life is full of journey's and you've found another to add to your list of many you will experience in your lifetime.

Remember, everything happens for a reason.

Don't allow this to stop you again from loving someone.

You are so right.
Thank you for your wisdom!!

Reminds of this email I received a while back.
From here on out, this is how I will think about my life's journeys:


Let it go for 2007...

By T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk
away from you: let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into
staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you,
coming to see you, staying attached to
you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us
that it might be made manifest that they were not for
us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have
continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just
means that their part in the story is over And you've got
to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep
trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over... Let me tell you
something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift,
I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm
faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to
have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too
much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong
to you and was never intended for your life,
then you need to........

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ......

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and
see your worth.....

LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you ........

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge......

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction.....

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude.........

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better......

LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take
you to a new level in Him......

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken
relationship.......

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try
to help themselves.....

LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed .........

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself
and God is saying "take your hands off of it,"
then you need to......

LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing for 2007!!!

LET IT GO!!!

Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then .

LET IT GO!!!

[AngieDoogles]

That's a great email Shada. Thanks for sharing it with us!

[rivermom]

Oh I LOVE that email Shada. Thanks so much for sharing it with us.

I wish you happy thoughts.

[Janet]

That was a great email they sent you. Alot easier said than done, but worth trying anyway.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Janet

That was a great email they sent you. Alot easier said than done, but worth trying anyway.

So many things are easier said than done, unfortunately...

[Mandy]

That IS a beautiful email! Thanks for sharing.

[Mandy]

Shada, i love it so much i have to share with a few people, hope you dont mind!

[Shada]

Originally Posted by Mandy

Shada, i love it so much i have to share with a few people, hope you dont mind!

Of course I don't mind!

Very glad to know so many like it, it is meant to be shared.
Something we all should live by.

[Mandy]

Shada, how are you feeling? Thought i would ask to see if you are OK! Come talk to us girl

[Shada]

Thanks for asking about me...

I am doing good.
Still hurting... but... I will be ok. I know time will help, and it has.

But... like an idiot I still care. Doesn't mean I will do anything stupid.. haven't heard from him, know I won't.
I refuse to try to get in touch with him. His silence tells me more than words could. Although I wish he would call to give me closure and to explain. So many unanswered questions I have... biggest one being 'why'?

I have to live with the knowledge that I was weak in believing in a man I knew nothing about other than what little he was willing to share with me..

But I also have to thank him for showing me that I am capable of loving and caring again.. I truly thought I would never meet a man I could think strongly about again. But I did. I will again. God permitting.

Hopefully the next man will be worthy of my love and will love me back as I deserve. Time will tell.

Untill then, I am content to be on my own.

I have the support of friends and family. The support of this forum I was so forunate to find.

I have a good life. I will continue to live it as I have, honestly and with respect for those I care about.

[Mandy]

Glad you are ok Shada! Its great that you are seeing the positive side of it, keep going girl. Nice to hear from you!

[AngieDoogles]

Shada, I can tell you are still hurting, but it seems you've come such a long way since your first post! I'm so happy for you! Someday, probably when you least expect it, you will meet the man of your dreams and none of this will even matter anymore.

[Taurus Babe]

Ugh! Men can be such dirt balls!!!!
I'm so sorry for the deep pain that you are experiencing right now. I know that pain, and you are right that time will heal. You sounds like a very level headed woman, and you will get over him. Good for you for being so smart about this and realizing that he is NOT worthy of you. Neither is that whore at your work. Chin up around her. She is a scum bag too. Let them have each other, they only deserve one another!! I hope your prince swoops you off your feet when the time is right...of course, what a lucky man that will be!