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Old 04-07-2007, 09:32 PM   #31
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She's really upset right now... when we were out on Thursday night somebody texted her and said "Drop to 125 lbs and then we'll talk" and she was so upset and didn't know who it was. Tonight the guy she likes changed his name on msn to "125 lbs max" so it was obviously him and she's really feeling bad... I can't just not talk to her, she needs a friend right now too. Maybe she really is sorry for what happened. I don't know..
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Old 04-08-2007, 02:33 AM   #32
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All people, I think deserve a second chance, but there has to be rules to abide by. Be honest with her and tell her that you do not want to associate with someone that will bring your reputation down. That you like her and want to be friends, but if the rules are broken, so is the friendship.

There should be rules and boundaries in every relationship. Some should be negotiated others are moral and religious and there is no negotiation. It's really up to you Lindsey what you are willing to tolerate.
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Old 04-08-2007, 07:04 AM   #33
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oye...it is so hard to find good friends these days that you dont' have to worry about stuff like this. I cherish the close friends that I do have but I do know how hard it is. I hope things get better for you. You really should consider wether or not this is the kind of friend you want around long term. that is so hard...I'm sorry you are going through this...
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Old 04-08-2007, 10:14 AM   #34
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I don't really know if I buy her apology. Being drunk is no excuse for anything, and "he started it" is no excuse for anything. She knew she was at my house, with my brother, and i was the only other person here. Why could she not just say no? And her little "Can we still be friends? best friends?" thing just kind of creeped me out... she keeps calling me her best friend, and she doesn't even know me. I don't know... she's going to call me in an hour to go to her place and see her new bike and have coffee. Should I go?
EDIT: I just asked one of my guy friends about it and he was like "she seems kind of weird, i probably wouldn't talk to her again... borderline psychotic"
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Old 04-08-2007, 10:59 AM   #35
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Lindsey, from the tone of your post, I think you've answered your own question. Girl, it's time to move on.
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Old 04-08-2007, 11:24 AM   #36
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She didn't call, but she just texted me and said "Hun? Do you have a spare helmet I coud borrow?" I'm not going to reply. She still has stuff at my house so I guess I'm going to see her at least one more time
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Old 04-08-2007, 11:36 AM   #37
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Lyndsay, sounds like this relationship would just cause more stress in your life which is something none of us need.
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Old 04-08-2007, 12:40 PM   #38
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Lyndsay, sounds like this relationship would just cause more stress in your life which is something none of us need.
I agree. She doesn't sound like the kind of person you want to be in your life. Sometimes it's best to just cut ties. I hope you are having a wonderful Easter!
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Old 04-08-2007, 12:46 PM   #39
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I wish I was having a wonderful easter... my ex just came on msn and told me to say happy easter to my family for him, he's with his family right now, about to go to his grandma's house... and that's where I should be. I miss them so much. My family doesn't do stuff, I was part of his family. I'm spending easter sitting in my bedroom crying.
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Old 04-08-2007, 01:38 PM   #40
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Awwww Lindsey, cheer up girl. We are here for you, and i promise that in time to come, the right man will find you to share everything with.
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Remember Lyndsey-when God closes a door he opens up a window.
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Old 04-08-2007, 03:06 PM   #42
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I've said it before but you ladies have been so great to me. I know I need to learn to love myself again. I used to be the girl who didn't need a man in my life for anything! Then I got one and started to lose myself. I was part of his group so I didn't branch out on my own. All of a sudden it was over and there was nobody. I need to build myself up again before I try to rely on others to make me feel good. I put faith and trust in a girl I hardly knew and it feels like I just got dumped all over again.
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Old 04-09-2007, 05:00 AM   #43
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I've said it before but you ladies have been so great to me. I know I need to learn to love myself again. I used to be the girl who didn't need a man in my life for anything! Then I got one and started to lose myself. I was part of his group so I didn't branch out on my own. All of a sudden it was over and there was nobody. I need to build myself up again before I try to rely on others to make me feel good. I put faith and trust in a girl I hardly knew and it feels like I just got dumped all over again.
I definitely understand what you mean. I lost myself with my ex as well. It became "US & THE KIDS" instead of "me". So when he cheated on me & we split up I was lost. I started hanging out with old freimds & a really fun guy (someone I knew I wouldn't fall for) I taught myself how to have fun again. How to be me. I hope you find that again too very soon hon.
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Old 04-09-2007, 02:44 PM   #44
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She definitely doesn't sound like a good girl to be around, so your decision to distance yourself from her is a good one.

Give it time, it's gonna hurt for a little while, but something good will come when you least expect it!!
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Old 04-09-2007, 03:02 PM   #45
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I got so upset last night I decided to first block, and then delete my ex from my msn contact list. This seems so high school! But mine is on all day, and since we broke up his is on all day and his name is always changed to what he's doing. I just decided, I DON'T CARE WHAT HE'S DOING, and I don't need that constant reminder that his life is going on without me. It's easier to think he just doesn't exist anymore.
I think I've decided to stay civil with the girl. I'm not going to go out with her and her friends anymore. I will still go for rides with her on our bikes because we're both learners and it's nice to have someone to learn with.
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