It's going to be an awkward night

[Lindsey]

I think I need lots of chocolate, ice cream, and puppy kisses. I'm still just PRAYING that all of a sudden he will change and I will start having feelings for him and it won't have to end.

[judy]

Now you're talking Lindsey! He most certainly does not deserve to move on, be happy, nor have a (crazy, jealous) new girlfriend. In fact, he should be in bed most of the day crying and the rest of the time either throwing up or having the runs (you choose). It wouldn't hurt if he got acne and gained about 25 pounds either.

I love thoughts of revenge. A dash of self-pity is good too. I think they're healthy and honest. Just don't stay there too long.

I still stand behind my cure - chocolate.

[Lindsey]

Hahaha awww that put a big smile on my face. And if I had a choice, I'd choose throwing up AND the runs at the same time. That just makes it more interesting.
Actually, on Friday he said he cried for days over me when we broke up. I know he cried that night because he did it right in front of me, but to admit crying for days was impressive for a guy. I don't know if I believe it though, considering he slept with another girl not even a week later.
I know that I was a big loss for him. None of his friends can stand his new girl and they're all still friends with me! Even my friends have said, out of nowhere "I just saw Ryden with his new girlfriend... I'm not being biased because I'm your friend, you seriously are so much prettier!" And I know it's mean to judge someone on their looks, but I know she's an ugly person on the inside, and she thinks she's the hottest girl alive! So comments like that lift me up a little too

[judy]

"I don't know if I believe it though, considering he slept with another girl not even a week later. "





But you were on a break!

[Lindsey]

Right! Ugh I can't believe how fast guys can just get over someone! Or at least don't feel guilty about using someone else to get over someone!

[Gina]

Lindsey help me out here.lol Kyle broke up with you because of the incident the other night with Ryden? So who is sleeping with a new girl within a week of knowing her? Kyle or Ryden? geezeeeee I can't keep up here...lol

Well apparently you still have feelings over Ryden and I am sorry I saw this post after the fact that you ran into him at the function. He went out of his way to speak to you looks like to clear the air and his own guilt from what you had said in the past of him bad mouthing you. Honesty I would have heard him out and nothing more, and continue to have been cold to him that night. He doesn't deserve your friendship. As far as Kyle he was just jealous and hurt, guys at that age have an macho image to protect. He is acting childish in breaking up with you, if he truly cares he will be back and men need to be reassured that they are the only one in your life. But you are young don't settle for any bs...Anyway I hope I got part of the story right..

Judy is right chocolate always does it for me!! lol

[Lindsey]

Sorry for the confusion! Ryden said he cried over me for weeks... although a lot of people have told me he was already with a new girl within a week of breaking up with me. He tries to portray himself as the perfect caring boyfriend, but there were countless times he looked me in the eye to tell me he hadn't touched drugs when he was obviously high, plus all the stuff he told his friends about me. Then he tries to tell me he didn't lie to me throughout our whole relationship.
Kyle and I talked it over yesterday and as of now we are together, but I don't think I have much hope for us. We never come to a compromise on anything, we just eventually try to stop fighting about it until it comes up again. I don't want to settle with someone who's not right for me, but I also don't want to be lonely.

[Gina]

Lindsey time for the mother talk!! You are a young beautiful girl with so much life ahead of you. No reason for you to settle, just because you don't want to be lonely. Go out there and live life, it goes by to quickly and one day you will be a middle aged woman saying where did time go... Do fun stuff it doesn't always have to be with a boyfriend, go out with the girls , play the field . My friend's mom use to always tell us and I am passing it to you. When the right guy comes along you will know and he will not let you go. So until then don't go looking it will come to you..

[Lindsey]

I played the field for 3 years before I gave in and started dating Ryden and I realized I really REALLY like that there was someone who was just always going to be there for me. My friends are all in long-term relationships with live-in boyfriends, or married. I only have a couple of single girlfriends that I don't really see a whole lot.
I really don't know what I want right now. I really do LIKE Kyle, but I don't know if I could love him. Lately I almost even dread anything intimate at all, even kissing. I'm just not into it. I love to be with him and cuddle and hold his hand and hug him. He's not afraid to just act silly with me and I'm completely myself with him. I don't want to lose his friendship, and all of his friends, and all of his family, but that's inevitable if I break his heart.

[judy]

Put on your red shoes Mama and get your young little butt back out there. If I have to do it, so do you! Anyway, these 2 guys are too into drama to be bothered with.

Do not play the victim, which is something we do as young women. Here's the truth - line up 10 men and bring in one woman. She can have any one of them she wants, even if it's only for one night.

Line up 10 women and bring in 1 man. If he's really really lucky, one or two might have a conversation with him.

We are not victims - they are at our beck and call. They do hav4 commitment issues, but if it's meant to be, they get over those issues at some point.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

I played the field for 3 years before I gave in and started dating Ryden and I realized I really REALLY like that there was someone who was just always going to be there for me. My friends are all in long-term relationships with live-in boyfriends, or married. I only have a couple of single girlfriends that I don't really see a whole lot.
I really don't know what I want right now. I really do LIKE Kyle, but I don't know if I could love him. Lately I almost even dread anything intimate at all, even kissing. I'm just not into it. I love to be with him and cuddle and hold his hand and hug him. He's not afraid to just act silly with me and I'm completely myself with him. I don't want to lose his friendship, and all of his friends, and all of his family, but that's inevitable if I break his heart.

Dont worry about breaking hes heart - save yours from heartbreak!! Live life Lindsey, you have one life, and thats a good one, go and enjoy yourself!! If you dont, you'll regret it in 20 years from now

[Lindsey]

Thanks everyone for all your support! I can't begin to tell you all how much it means to me. I'm not close at all to my own mom so I'm really happy for any advice you give me.
I just think I need to give it one more chance. Maybe that's not a good thing but I can't just end it right now. I don't know why. He wants to see me tonight and I just want to see how it goes.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

Thanks everyone for all your support! I can't begin to tell you all how much it means to me. I'm not close at all to my own mom so I'm really happy for any advice you give me.
I just think I need to give it one more chance. Maybe that's not a good thing but I can't just end it right now. I don't know why. He wants to see me tonight and I just want to see how it goes.

Well, you have lotsa mom's and big sisters here that love you lots!

Lindsey, do what you have to do, but stay truthful with yourself, dont get into anything thats bound to go stale (does that make sense) ?

[Lindsey]

It does make sense. I am never EVER the one who has to break up with someone... in fact I've only ever done it once. After 5 months of dating a guy I knew it wouldn't work, and I stuck it out for over a year.
Just yesterday I was wondering which is worse, being crazy about someone you think you'll be with forever and having them break up with you out of nowhere, or knowing someone really wants to be with you and you just can't have feelings back for them. That's basically my last relationship and my current relationship.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

It does make sense. I am never EVER the one who has to break up with someone... in fact I've only ever done it once. After 5 months of dating a guy I knew it wouldn't work, and I stuck it out for over a year.
Just yesterday I was wondering which is worse, being crazy about someone you think you'll be with forever and having them break up with you out of nowhere, or knowing someone really wants to be with you and you just can't have feelings back for them. That's basically my last relationship and my current relationship.

Wish i was closer to show you the ropes, Lindsey. Dont ever get "stuck" in any relationship, that is the worste feeling.
Breaking up is never easy, either way.