01-20-2008, 12:43 PM | #1 |
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Our Girls Just Left
Our girls were here for the weekend. It was Melissa's birthday on Saturday. Karen was here barely 24 hours due to a class she had on Saturday morning. It's soo nice to have them here, but when they leave, it's soooo hard. I miss them sooo much. I'm happy with what they are doing and where they are in life, but I can't stop crying.
I worked so much when they were growing up, and now they are gone. If you have children at home, cherish each moment. It won't last as long as you want.
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01-20-2008, 05:03 PM | #3 |
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I dread the day Ricky leaves. I don't know if I'll be able to handle it well. It makes me so sad that I have to quickly get it out of my mind.
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01-20-2008, 05:57 PM | #4 |
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I'm sorry ladies.
And then you have mothers like me who are SO glad to see them go. LOL I've had friends who just hated when their kids left home, so I do believe I'm the odd man out here.
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It's almost 10:00, and I'm still crying off and on. I don't know why exactly it's harder this time than before. Melissa turned 21 and is getting married in June. Karen will be working on Saturday's now, so it is possible that this will be the last weekend when both will be home together before the wedding. I really don't know why it is hitting me so hard this time, but maybe this is part of it.
Hubby doesn't get it at all. He's pretty much oblivious to what I'm going through. He was too involved with the NFC playoff game this afternoon. Maybe going to bed and getting back to work tomorrow will calm me down. I know I'm feeling sorry for myself when I have so very much to be thankful for. It's really kinda silly and selfish. Thank you for being there to listen to my silliness.
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It's really hard to adjust to having the kids gone and it probably doesn't help that at this time of our life hormones make us cry too. I know that I have days where I cry and can't stop, especially in the past. All it would take is a mean word from someone and I'd start crying and cry all day. I hate to think that you have to go back to work to take your mind off of it but maybe a good rest would definitely help. BTW--Men just don't have a clue!!!!!
I hope that tomorrow is a much better day for you, Marilyn!!!
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01-20-2008, 10:21 PM | #8 |
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Marilyn, no need to apologize or feel bad for being honest about your feelings. We all have our days when we need to cry and just get it out. That's just part of being women I think. I cried when Lily left... I cried when my grand dd went home after a few days with me. Sometimes I cry watching commercials! LOL
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My heart just goes out to you Marilyn. It makes me think ahead and I know I will be feeling the same as you. Maybe by speaking often and keeping busy will help some.
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It's not that I don't want them to leave. Karen, our oldest was a lot like Diana's Dae Lynn in many respects. She had been in and out of our home depending on where she went to college, too. When she was home after living away, there were conflicts with rules and I worried about her a lot when she was out late. Karen will turn 23 this year, is attending her 3rd college (she took one course a a 4th but that does not really count). Now she is in a really good place, with a direction and an end to her education in site. She transferred with her employer, and the new branch is not the same as the other one. Much larger, but they don't follow the rules and this is bothering her. She has to make her own way, and is where I want her to be, but it's still hard. If she'd stayed in our home much longer, we'd have been asking her to leave, I'm sure. Tink, this is just life.
Knowing this is not a fix though. I'm still weepy this morning. I just wanted to pull the covers over my head and tell the world to go away, but can't do that. Must get up, go to work. Zoe was barking to be let out. Life must go on and they must grow up. I need to focus on things like Genesis 27:46 when Rebekah expresses her disappointment and frustration with her daughters-in-law, the wives of Esau. It helps us to realize that none of this is new. Women have been going through these same feelings from the beginning of time. But it's still not easy.
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Come here, Marilyn, you need a big hug! I'll say a prayer that your heart will be comforted.
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I'm feeling a little better. Got to work and lots going on here today. I'm taking a quick lunch and sneaked on here through Google. This site was blocked but for some reason it's not right now.
Thank you for the hugs and prayers. I'm just being a baby about this. Hubby called earlier checking on me, so maybe he's not as clueless as I thought. Y'all are wonderful friends!!!!!!
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You are not being a baby! Like you said, "I need to focus on things like Genesis 27:46 when Rebekah expresses her disappointment and frustration with her daughters-in-law, the wives of Esau. It helps us to realize that none of this is new. Women have been going through these same feelings from the beginning of time. But it's still not easy."
That's the reason we need each other for support. We all can understand your tears, and either have shed them already, or will shed them at some point. We also share your feelings Tink. The joy of having your own life back....Ahhhh! There's an old rock and roll song that talks about living "the full catastrophe of life." I love that line. I don't take it as a negative, or that life is a tragedy. It's just that life is so filled with the richness of so many different feelings. We're all here for your tears, Marilyn.
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Thank you, Judy!! You are a very sweet friend.
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No, you're not the odd man out. Me too! I was thrilled to see them go out on their own. They are all doing well, standing on their own 2 feet, and the girls call often, sometimes the oldest calls every day. Bob and I are happy to be alone!
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