Relying on your Husband/partner financially

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by Janet

You are just so funny...man I wish we lived closer to each other!!!

I know we would be trouble!!!

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Carolyn

That is perfect Janet! My kids have the best bus driver this year. You can tell she really cares about the kids. I can imagine how bad it must be though with those unruly kids on the bus. Standing and screaming the whole ride! UGH!

I truely love my kids. They're really good, most of the time. But the school has bus rules, and I have my own bus rules. I send a letter to each parent at the beginning of the school year outlining all the rules. So there is no excuse. The kids know I follow through on all the discipline, and since they know I mean business they follow the rules. I can be in ones face at one minute, but then tell them to have a great day at school the next. I never hold a grudge. They are just kids..from kindergarten to 12th grade. Sometimes I wonder why "this job", but I think God put his hand on my shoulder and led me to it. My encouragement may be the only encouragement they get and I won't let them down.

[Janet]

I do have one short story:

One of the students brought a friend on the bus to go to his house after school. After they got to their seat, I told Jade to tell his friend the rules...he looked at his friend and said: "ya can't do nothing"!!! I laughed so hard I about fell out of my seat.

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by Janet

I do have one short story:

One of the students brought a friend on the bus to go to his house after school. After they got to their seat, I told Jade to tell his friend the rules...he looked at his friend and said: "ya can't do nothing"!!! I laughed so hard I about fell out of my seat.

those would be my rules lol thats a good one hahahaha

[Carolyn]

Originally Posted by Janet

Sometimes I wonder why "this job", but I think God put his hand on my shoulder and led me to it. My encouragement may be the only encouragement they get and I won't let them down.

You are such a wonderful person Janet! We need more people like you!

[rivermom]

I too am very independant and along with that have a stubborn streak to no end when it comes to "taking care of myself". However...now that I have matured I find myself enjoying the ~comfort zone~ I now am in. I have worked my butt off since a teenager taking care of myself and a child. (Later came more children)

Always a survivor and bound and determined to be strong, self sufficient, etc. For once I no longer have to prove myself to me or others. It's such a peaceful feeling.

My husband and I now are self employeed, but he surely does most of the "bread winning" sorta speak. I take care of some things with the business but our home and the care of it is mainly my deal.

It is so nice being "under his wing" as one might say and I never take it for granted. God forbid something happens I know I can head back out into that work force and do it again.

When I was a stay at home Mom I did have self esteem issues, etc feeling as though I wasn't measuring up as much as the rest of the world. I wish I could have realized way back then that being a stay at home Mom is one of the most important jobs a woman could ever do IMO. It truly pays off in so many other ways rather than with cash.

If you have the opportunity to be a stay at home Mom please remember your worth, your importance, your ambitions that someday will be the most rewarding "job" you have ever accomplished.

[Carolyn]

Originally Posted by rivermom

I too am very independant and along with that have a stubborn streak to no end when it comes to "taking care of myself". However...now that I have matured I find myself enjoying the ~comfort zone~ I now am in. I have worked my butt off since a teenager taking care of myself and a child. (Later came more children)

Always a survivor and bound and determined to be strong, self sufficient, etc. For once I no longer have to prove myself to me or others. It's such a peaceful feeling.

My husband and I now are self employeed, but he surely does most of the "bread winning" sorta speak. I take care of some things with the business but our home and the care of it is mainly my deal.

It is so nice being "under his wing" as one might say and I never take it for granted. God forbid something happens I know I can head back out into that work force and do it again.

When I was a stay at home Mom I did have self esteem issues, etc feeling as though I wasn't measuring up as much as the rest of the world. I wish I could have realized way back then that being a stay at home Mom is one of the most important jobs a woman could ever do IMO. It truly pays off in so many other ways rather than with cash.

If you have the opportunity to be a stay at home Mom please remember your worth, your importance, your ambitions that someday will be the most rewarding "job" you have ever accomplished.

GREAT post Sheryl!

[Ponyup]

I had issues with being supported personally. When my husband & I first got married I couldn't find a job. I had a hard time getting motivated to clean house or do laundry. I was miserable most of the time & had to go on antidepressants. I also have a very bad shopping bug, but I hated to ask my hubby to spend his hard earned money on me. My parents are loaded so as a kid if I followed the rules I could have whatever they deamed okay. Well I wanted to be my own person so I started working early so I could do my own things. When I got married & didn't work I felt like I couldn't buy anything because I didn't earn the money. It really made me feel worthless. I feel worthless more times than not, but that's a different story. It might be different if we had kids, but to sit on my a** all day watching t.v. & then expecting my hubby to take me shopping was not something I was comfortable with. I did substitute teach which made me terrified of having children & did help some & gave me a bit of spending money. I like helping with the expenses, but if I had children it might be a different story. however I'm not sure I could stay at home all day without some social contact either.

[Taurus Babe]

This is very interesting. Like someone else mentioned, different things work for each of us. This is great insight and I would love to see the stories/experiences coming!