Changes

[Lindsey]

Things are changing quickly in my life! On top of all the condo renovations we're starting on AGAIN, Scott got a new job last week. He gave his resignation here on Friday, and said his last day would be the 20th (2 weeks). This morning we drove to work together, but he got called into a manager's office and was told to go home and use banked time for the remainder of his time here I was upset since he's an employee in MY department and I wasn't consulted at all about the amount of work we have to do. But anyways, he's at home now.

So now I'm dealing with being the only one in my department again. I just heard a rustle at his desk and my heart sunk when I turned around and he wasn't there! As much as I thought we were together too much, it's still hard to not be able to talk to someone all day. But now that he's home all day and I am at work, I did ask for some help with some household chores and making meals and that was met with a little resistance

In two weeks he will be at his new job. He has to take a bus because parking downtown is very very expensive. He'll leave home a half hour earlier and get home a half hour later. We won't have lunch together at home anymore.

I really hope it works out well in the long run because right now I'm feeling really lonely!

[Blueyes]

It will work out, and you'll enjoy your time together even more Give him a couple of days to do nothing, then put him to work at the house!!

[Janet]

Just make sure you keep the lines of communication open should anything come up. You two should be okay.

[DianaB]

That's too bad. It just means that you'll look even more forward to being with him in the evening!!!

[Shada]

Originally Posted by DianaB

That's too bad. It just means that you'll look even more forward to being with him in the evening!!!

What she said..

[Marilyn]

Lindsey, hope the adjustment goes well. Wasn't Scott having to travel quite a bit. Maybe now, he will actually be home more even though you won't be working together, or maybe you can get a job where he is working. You've been looking for a change havent' you?

[gja1000]

Change is often stressful - but I bet it will turn out to be just fine! Keep us posted!

[Lindsey]

I am hoping it will make our evenings a little nicer together It's just a tough start right now.

Marilyn, yes he was having to travel a lot. When he was moved into my department he was told he would be a drafter and that's it. That didn't last very long though. Right before he handed in his resignation, he was asked to go out of town on another job for a couple of weeks and he had to start training for it the next day. He refused saying he has tickets for an event and he needed to be around to lay flooring with everyone coming into town to help over that weekend. He was told "We will reimburse you for the ticket, and you need to decide what's more important.. laying some floor or keeping your job" The tickets are for something he's going to with me and each ticket cost over $100... who cares if they reimburse him, we both want to go, and I'm not going to go alone! Everything just happens so last-minute here too. Not everyone can just drop their lives. Work is important, but life is important too. They really just walked all over him here!

So I'm really glad he got another opportunity. I think for now I'm going to stick with the job here because without me they won't get anything done. A year ago I did tell my manager I wanted to do design work and he said absolutely! He would get me started on it right away! It hasn't happened. Scott mentioned to our supervisor that he was going to this other job to do design and she said to him "That's good, because you'll never get to do that here"

I also applied at the company where he got his job. I was sure I'd be a shoe-in because they were looking for a minimum 4 years experience with the program we use, and I have 3 years plus two courses I've taken. Scott has less than one year, no courses or training, and he got an interview right away. Instead of a phone call, I got an email saying thanks for my interest, but they are going with other candidates instead. Sometimes I wish I was in a career that was more accepting of females in the workplace.

[judy]

Discrimination!!!

Play it by ear, Linds. Maybe he can get you in there now. Anyway, it might be better if you aren't together 24/7. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder. It does suck that you are the only one working in your department though.

[Lindsey]

Yeah Judy it does suck, but I'm glad I have looked into the labor standards here and found all of the illegal things that my company has been doing so I am more comfortable to refuse to do things they're asking of me. If I start work at 8 am, I can't work past midnight because I am required to have 8 consecutive hours of rest in a 24-hour period. None of this 4, 5, 6 am b.s. for this girl anymore!

And being so valuable to the company right now puts me in a pretty good place. They can't AFFORD to lose me. And I have to admit that as much of a headache this place can be sometimes, my position is still a pretty cushy job... especially for someone who is only 25 I think the biggest scare for me moving to another company is that I'd have to start at the bottom of the totem pole!

[judy]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

Yeah Judy it does suck, but I'm glad I have looked into the labor standards here and found all of the illegal things that my company has been doing so I am more comfortable to refuse to do things they're asking of me. If I start work at 8 am, I can't work past midnight because I am required to have 8 consecutive hours of rest in a 24-hour period. None of this 4, 5, 6 am b.s. for this girl anymore!

And being so valuable to the company right now puts me in a pretty good place. They can't AFFORD to lose me. And I have to admit that as much of a headache this place can be sometimes, my position is still a pretty cushy job... especially for someone who is only 25 I think the biggest scare for me moving to another company is that I'd have to start at the bottom of the totem pole!

Smart girl!

[Gina]

Originally Posted by judy

Discrimination!!!

Play it by ear, Linds. Maybe he can get you in there now. Anyway, it might be better if you aren't together 24/7. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder. It does suck that you are the only one working in your department though.

Yes to what Judy said about absence makes the heart grow fonder.. It is much healthier for your relationship and you will have much more to talk about. He is young and the traveling time is not bad Lindsey.. My husband commutes to the city about a hr or so each way everyday.

Today its very hard to find a job so if your job is not perfect remember no job is.

[Lindsey]

Scott started his new job yesterday. The guy who does the hiring for his department took him out for lunch and they got to talking about everything and Scott mentioned that I had applied for a job there but was denied without even an interview. The hiring manager was bewildered. He said my resume never crossed his desk. If they get any application from a woman born in Saskatchewan, they basically get first dibs on jobs. There's no way I should have not even gotten an interview. They are still looking for 8-9 drafters and told Scott that if I still want a job, he'd give me one tomorrow!
Scott explained that the reason he found a new job is so we wouldn't have to work together. The hiring guy said he could put us on different projects... we'd work in the same building but never have to work together on anything. He said there are a lot of married couples and people who are dating and living together who all work there and it's not a problem at all with the company.
It's something to think about for sure. With it being so close to Christmas right now i don't want to give up my Christmas holidays or my trip to Mexico in February. Plus in January I'll find out what I'm getting for a raise and possibly a bonus. And I would feel terrible leaving my office without a drafter at all... me leaving would be REALLY detrimental to the company. But I'm still going to keep it in the back of my mind.

[judy]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

Scott started his new job yesterday. The guy who does the hiring for his department took him out for lunch and they got to talking about everything and Scott mentioned that I had applied for a job there but was denied without even an interview. The hiring manager was bewildered. He said my resume never crossed his desk. If they get any application from a woman born in Saskatchewan, they basically get first dibs on jobs. There's no way I should have not even gotten an interview. They are still looking for 8-9 drafters and told Scott that if I still want a job, he'd give me one tomorrow!
Scott explained that the reason he found a new job is so we wouldn't have to work together. The hiring guy said he could put us on different projects... we'd work in the same building but never have to work together on anything. He said there are a lot of married couples and people who are dating and living together who all work there and it's not a problem at all with the company.
It's something to think about for sure. With it being so close to Christmas right now i don't want to give up my Christmas holidays or my trip to Mexico in February. Plus in January I'll find out what I'm getting for a raise and possibly a bonus. And I would feel terrible leaving my office without a drafter at all... me leaving would be REALLY detrimental to the company. But I'm still going to keep it in the back of my mind.

It is great that you have that option!!!

[gja1000]

I'm really glad to hear that Lindsay! It's always great to have options.