so awkward...

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

I'd threaten to tell everyone in class what's going on if they don't knock it off. They are not respecting you as a friend so why should you have to respect them.

Plus why don't they want people to know anyway. When I was dating I refused to date anyone that wanted our relationship kept a secret.

I think my roommate wants it a secret more than the girl does. They said they don't want anyone to make a big deal out of it, but I don't know that anyone would. Well, i take that back. It's a class of adults that act 13. They think it's hilarious to sit there and fart all class! To the extent that last week they ended up making the third girl in our class, who is pregnant, run to the bathroom and throw up. They thought it was the funniest thing in the world! I can't wait to get my diploma and get out of there.
Anyways, the girl who's "secretly dating" my roommate has a bit of a reputation. She has totally built it up herself though. Today in class she was telling the guys sitting around her that she'll lift up her shirt for any guy or girl offering to buy her a shot. Lately she's been mentioning him a lot around other people and hinting that they're together, but not when he's around. I think she wants people to know but it's an embarassment to him.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

I think my roommate wants it a secret more than the girl does. They said they don't want anyone to make a big deal out of it, but I don't know that anyone would. Well, i take that back. It's a class of adults that act 13. They think it's hilarious to sit there and fart all class! To the extent that last week they ended up making the third girl in our class, who is pregnant, run to the bathroom and throw up. They thought it was the funniest thing in the world! I can't wait to get my diploma and get out of there.
Anyways, the girl who's "secretly dating" my roommate has a bit of a reputation. She has totally built it up herself though. Today in class she was telling the guys sitting around her that she'll lift up her shirt for any guy or girl offering to buy her a shot. Lately she's been mentioning him a lot around other people and hinting that they're together, but not when he's around. I think she wants people to know but it's an embarassment to him.

Why in the world would she say that about lifting her shirt? She really isn't impressing anyone!! She should be embarassed to show her face!

[Lindsey]

She told me today that on the weekend her dad told her she's insecure. She asked why and he wouldn't answer. I think that's part of her problem though, why she's always so OUT THERE. I think she feels like sex is all she has to offer. It's all she talks about. It's the only way she tries to meet guys.

[Janet]

Too bad....too many diseases!!! Your roommate better be careful, if she does more than talk.

[Lindsey]

Oh I've talked to her about that! And at least they're being careful, because I know she does more than just talk! She's younger than me, and when we met she was so innocent! Then she started getting really close to another girl who just got out of a 7 year relationship and she went a little crazy and was a big influence on my friend Hopefully she'll realize soon that she needs more than sex to feel good about herself.

[Janet]

Hopefully.........but some never learn!!!

[Lindsey]

I can't believe this has not f-ing stopped yet!!!!!!!!!! My roommate wasn't here last night but I was so stressed out over my lack of tuition money situation that I hardly slept at all. I had just nicely gotten to sleep tonight when they burst into the house and banged stuff around in the kitchen (my bedroom is right off the kitchen), made my dog go crazy, and then ran downstairs to talk really loud and laugh and have sex. I'm so upset I can't stop shaking. I'm going to have a fit tomorrow.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

I can't believe this has not f-ing stopped yet!!!!!!!!!! My roommate wasn't here last night but I was so stressed out over my lack of tuition money situation that I hardly slept at all. I had just nicely gotten to sleep tonight when they burst into the house and banged stuff around in the kitchen (my bedroom is right off the kitchen), made my dog go crazy, and then ran downstairs to talk really loud and laugh and have sex. I'm so upset I can't stop shaking. I'm going to have a fit tomorrow.

Ahhhhh you gotta be kiddin... look at the time, you should be sleeping girl.
How are you going to be able to get through your day school tomorrow
This is not fair
Maybe it's time you walked into their room and tell them to get out!!!!
How inconsidered (sp) of them!!!!!

[Lindsey]

I know I should be in bed, and they're done making noise now, but I get so stressed out that I just can't get back to sleep all night. I'm talking to my cousin right now who is also awake with her baby. She works in the medical field and she told me I should look into getting some anti-anxiety pills for times like this so I can relax. I think I should just tell them if they're gonna come in at all hours of the night, go stay at HER house and see how her three roommates like that! I'm sure medication would work but I hate taking anything when I don't HAVE to, and why should I spend money for sleep to accomodate them??

[Mandy]

Lindsey, you CAN'T go on like this!! Sooner or later it's going to get the better of you.
I don't see why you should be on any meds so they can barge into your house at any hour and wake you up! Tell me, how do those 2 get through the day with so little sleep?
Tell your room mate straight, if he's not going to stop this crap, you are forced to look for another room mate!!

[Marilyn]

So sad you have to deal with this. Our society has gotten so bad!!

My thought was....could you trade roommates? She likes yours and hers might be a quieter kind of guy who wants to rest and study like you do.

Just a thought....

[Lindsey]

We couldn't trade roommates, because then their little secret would be out. Plus she lives in a house with 3 other people and pays wayyyy less rent than I do. And her house is pretty much known as the party house. I ended up taking enough tylenol last night to knock me out so I got three hours of sleep.

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by Mandy

Lindsey, you CAN'T go on like this!! Sooner or later it's going to get the better of you.
I don't see why you should be on any meds so they can barge into your house at any hour and wake you up! Tell me, how do those 2 get through the day with so little sleep?
Tell your room mate straight, if he's not going to stop this crap, you are forced to look for another room mate!!

I think it's already starting to get the better of me I've never shook so bad as I did last night, and my heart was pounding so hard I thought it would burst out of my chest. To begin with, I'm not healthy, and they both know that. I need sleep. I constantly have low blood sugar and low blood pressure, and one damaged kidney. When I don't get sleep I actually feel ill all day. Sometimes everything will drop at once and I just pass out, it's been happening since I was 6.
I think today I'm going to tell them if they want to do it here, do it and be quiet by the time I go to sleep. When they're coming home from the bar like last night and they'll be doing it tonight too, go to her house, or sleep in the car or something!

[Ponyup]

Sweetie I know exactly how you feel. I wish I had great advise for you, but I don't. I went through a very similar thing my junior year of college. I moved in will a girl I thought was a friend of mine. We got along great & had a lot of fun. However soon after we started living together her boyfriend moved in. I would get charged for the food he ate, I never came out of my room because he was always there watching t.v. I couldn't use the internet to do my homework because they were constantly on. She stole my cloths. It was a hard situation & I started having panic attacks. I'm not good at standing up for myself & I just let things go. I hardly slept & my only saving grace was that I went to my boyfriends place every weekend. My good friends had a house in town & once I told them what was going on they let me crash there as often as I wanted & I could come in & do homework or watch t.v. anytime I wanted even if they weren't home.

You have to take care of yourself, it sounds like you are having panic attacks & with you preexisting health problems this can be very bad. You are having panic attacks because you feel trapped like there is nothing you can do to control or stop the situation. This person is not your friend, she has no respect for you or herself. When they begin to make noise I would bang on the door until they answer & then inform them that they need to keep it down. This has also gone on long enough I would inform her roommates of what's going on & then come back & tell them that they can go over there now because her roommates know what's up. Please take some kind of action, this is affecting your health.

[Necee419]

You must put an end to this before you wind up in the hospital. I think you have been too nice so far. Sit both of their behinds down and tell them you cannot take this anymore. Tell them it has gone on far too long, your health is deteriorating and your education is being affected as well. If they can't respect your wishes, threaten to expose them to everyone. I think it is ridiculous that two grown a$$ people are hiding around like two high school kids. And this so called friend of yours has no respect or affection for you if she continues to act this way even after you have expressed your feelings to her. I would start looking for a new roommate and give that jerk and his floozy two weeks to get out of my house. Enough is enough!!