I'm having a pity party!!

[Janet]

I'm here alone this weekend and enjoying it I might add. BUT....I thought it would be nice to go out to eat and I honestly don't have any friends that live close to ask to go with me. That realization made me sad for a moment or two.

Even my family is gone...my older brother and his wife are on their way back from Florida with Mom and I really don't have any friends that I do anything with. I mean, they are people I speak with, but as for friends, confidants..I don't have any.

I do have Lynne and all of you, but no one that lives close. I guess I can see what kind of life I'll have if I don't get out there more...huh? Kind of scary to think I may be totally alone someday.

Do any of you worry about this at all? Or are you quite social and go do things with friends often?

[Dobie]

I sometimes worry that I spend all of my time with Jim, and do almost everything with him. I forced myself to join a book group and hiking club - I've found that I enjoy the time with new friends and my time with Jim is even more special.

I'm also lucky to have a very large family, I have over 100 cousins that live within 30 miles of me - we spend a lot of time together.

[Janet]

That would be nice Dobie. I only have my two brothers and my mom. My family is getting smaller and smaller.

[DianaB]

I'm with you, Janet. Glen's out working, Jaci's at a music contest for school, and I'm home alone. At church we have two groups of people, the Senior's group and the Younger group and I feel like I've just been swallowed up in the crack between the two. I don't feel like I belong with the older group (that's my Mom's group) and I don't belong with the younger group (that's my daughter's group). I've always kept busy with things going on at church but lately there's been some things that's bothered me and I decided to take some time off. My husband would like for me to find someone to do things with and I asked him "Who?" Everyone works or they don't like to do the things that I like to do. So yes, Janet, I can understand completely how you feel. Wish that I lived closer. I'd take ya' out to eat or invite you over!!!!

[goofywife]

We are home bodies too. We always get take out and bring it home. All of my family is either Northeast or in Texas. I have some friends from work and I do get to go places because of work. Other wise I would be like you, home with my dog.

[Janet]

It would be fun if we lived closer Diana. I just usually run the route and come home. Stay home till I go for the afternoon route. Then I'm usually home of an evening. I go to town about twice a week. Monday's to go to the bank and Thurdays to WW. I really need to get out more...LOL

[katcarasella]

Yes, you girls should get out more like me, I'm quite the social butterfly!

I'm thinking of getting a lap top so I can take you all with me when and if I ever go out again.
FYI Babysitting does not count as going out

[Janet]

I'm a real homebody myself, but then there are times when I just need to get out. But I'm only out for a short period and then right back home. I think alot of it is there is just really nothing that exciting to do around here and then there are ...the doggies.

[Marilyn]

Janet, I do understand how you feel to some extent. I have very little family, none I really get together with. I think I've spoken about them before. My children are now 2 hours away. That's why I run to where they are so often. Thankfully, they ask me to come, so it's not like I'm imposing on their time without them wanting me there. Hopefully this relationship will continue.

I have a couple of friends I can run around with besides my hubby. One of them does not work outside the home, so whenever I have time, she's ready to go!! My other 2 other close friends work like I do, so we don't see each other often outside of church. Once in a while we will do something on the weekend, but one of them has one son still at home who is involved in school and sport activities, so her time is rather limited.

It's tough making good close friends. I think that is why we all enjoy it on here so much. Women are designed to be social creatures, and I think we need to find ways to connect with others and develop these friendships.

We're here for you though when you are feeling lonely. You can always count on us!!

[Janet]

Thank you Marilyn, I know I can always count on the ladies here and I value these friendships so much, but it sure would be nice to have a friend right here close to go do something with once in awhile.

We use to get together with other couples when we were younger, but most of them are divorced now and we or they didn't continue on with the friendships. Strange that at least one of us didn't value the friendship enough to keep it going.

Oh well...I'm sure I will feel much better when I can spend a little more time at least outside. It was up near 80 for a few days and it was wonderful and beautiful and all the furbabies loved being outside. Now, it's back in the 50's and feels soooo cold and at night down to the low 30's. I'm trying to be patient, but it sure is hard...lol

[deb22]

Maybe we should all get dinner. And have it together on here. We could have a dinner date. I always eat at the puter anyway!

[Janet]

Sounds like a great idea, but I just know I'd spill or drop something into the keyboard...LOL.. yes I'm sloppy and I admit it...LOL

[Gina]

Aww Janet we are always here for you we are all cyber buddies

I have always been a social person and have many good friends. We all don't see each other because we live in different states. But we speak and email each other often. I do meet some friends like I did last night for dinner and we sometimes go to the city to see a play. At least once or twice a year..

I have my family nearby so I am see them often, cousins, and brother's family. I work so I have made many friendships with other realtors and we get together go to AC and do lunch. I can understand if no one is around it could be lonely for someone.

What about the other bus drivers at work, no special friendships there? I wish you lived by me I keep you busy. Whenever you are alone.. just holler ..

[Janet]

Please don't feel bad for me, I just need to get out and make some friends. I have LynneB who I love to pieces, but she works and has her husband and furkids, and Linda (2tiredmom) up and moved 2 hours away. It would just be nice to pick up the phone once in awhile and say hey, "want to run to town for lunch?" You know.

[katcarasella]

Don't feel bad, I got you a purse today to cheer you up!!th_nutcase.jpg