My life lately

[Lindsey]

Sorry this is long! I just thought I'd give a little update since I haven't really talked about anything besides my condo here in the past month or so

A couple of weeks ago, my cousin (who is also pretty much my other half!) came for a visit with her three kids and her new boyfriend. They stayed with her boyfriend's family so I didn't get to see her as much as I'd have liked to, but we still had a good time together. Her two youngest kids are adorable little angels, and her oldest is adorable but bratty! But it was really great to see them all anyway, since we rarely get the chance (she lives almost 6 hours away).

That same weekend, there was some drama again with Scott's mom. I was very adamant about staying home for the weekend to see my cousin as much as possible (since we had it planned for months), and Scott's mom was very adamant about us both going to visit her because some of Scott's family was there from BC. Even Scott didn't know they were all going to be there until the last minute. I told Scott he could definitely go home by himself and it wouldn't bother me, it's his family and he can go see them if he wanted, but he kept insisting his mom only wanted BOTH of us to come. I refused to get into the drama-ness of it all and put my foot down to say I'm staying home, I wanted to see my cousin. But then Scott was crying, and his mom was crying on the phone, and I really thought it was unfair to expect me to drop my plans like that.

That Monday, we were heading down anyway. We were going to see AC/DC!!! We left early to visit with his family and see his sister's new baby... he is so cute!!! His little head is full of red hair and he's got the biggest blue eyes ever! Scott's grandma from BC was still there so I got to meet her and she was really nice. My parents got into town later that afternoon and we all went to eat before heading to AC/DC. My parents brought their friends, and my brother and his girlfriend were also there. I have to say it was an AMAZING concert, and we had fantastic seats right beside a little stage at the end of the catwalk. They are all getting up there in age, but they are still amazing to see live! Angus Young had more energy than I have!

The next day we headed home after seeing the baby again. Before leaving, when Scott was outside, his mom made one comment to me about how she would ask Scott something but she knows he won't answer until he talks to me because "the girl always makes decisions in a relationship!" and she was smiling so I thought she was joking so I laughed and said "Yep!" and then she was like "Yeah I was talking with my sister about that... you know it's just hard to deal with when you're the mother of the boy" .... and that got awkward really fast. I went outside to join Scott and his grandma, and left his mom inside.

On Thursday night, I had an interesting "date"... I went for a drink with an ex-boyfriend. Of course, I got Scott's full permission first I love how he trusts me enough to let me catch up with an old friend. Cory was a terrible boyfriend. We just could never work together. We were together on and off for over two years, and it was full of cheating and lies... but I have always known he's still a good person underneath that shell. We met at a bad time in his life, right after his mother passed away. His whole life was one big party and he didn't want to be sober, he didn't want to have time to think about anything. So when he contacted me and said it would be nice to reconnect and have a visit, I thought why not?? It has been 2 or 3 years since I saw him last. We met for an hour and we had some really good talks... he has grown up a LOT. It was really good to see. He got out of his construction job (he operated cranes) and is looking to buy a few more companies and just be the brains of the operation. He was genuinely happy that I'm in a great relationship and asked why I didn't bring Scott out with me! I dont' think Cory has many REAL friends, and I think he recognized that I can be there as a friend. We both know we could never date, but in terms of having conversation and advice and caring from the point of friendship, I think it was really good that we reconnected.

This past weekend Scott and I went to visit his other grandparents, as well as having a lunch date with his parents and aunt and uncle and cousin. It was actually a lot of fun. His grandparents live in a care home, but it's right on a lake. Scott and I walked to the beach and watched kids play in the water, and talked about our childhoods. We both want the same things for OUR kids someday. Everyone was extremely nice, and we had a good visit!

And finally, Scott is leaving today to go up north on a job for over 2 weeks He will be out of cell phone range and I'm going to miss him a lot. I almost cried this morning when we were getting ready for work and I was thinking about how I need to get ready for work ALONE starting tomorrow. Who is going to wake me up when I keep hitting snooze?? But, on Friday he got two phone calls from companies he applied with a month ago He is at an interview right now and has another phone interview this afternoon. I really hope he gets one, so he won't have to leave anymore. I don't feel I'm dependent on HIM, but I'm dependent on his company. I really like having him around.

Oh yeah, and I cut over a foot of my hair off and I love it

[gja1000]

Hi Lindsay! Sorry I missed this post earlier. It sounds like you really have had a lot going on in your life lately. I have missed your posts on the board.

I'm glad to hear that Scott is sticking up for you. His mom is still having her ups and downs but she sounds so much better than at first.

How is Layla doing with remedial potty training? My little Rowdy will sprinkle in the house if he gets a chance. We have to put belly bands on him when we leave and I still find a few sprinkles from time to time - he has to do it when we are here, but we NEVER see him! LOL!

I'm so glad that you were able to spend time with your cousin. Family is so important!

I hope Scott gets the new job. I know you hate for him to travel. I'll keep my fingers crossed!!!

[DianaB]

You have been busy!! It sounds like you're learning how to handle Scott's Mom. Don't let her little digs get to you. That's one of the things I deal with with Glen's Mom and I just ignore them.

I'm glad that you got to spend some time with your favorite cousin. I had a cousin that I was close to but as we got older we slowly developed other interests. I still see her but it's not the same.

I too hope that Scott is able to get a new job and not have to be so far away.

[Lindsey]

I'm really hoping he gets one of the jobs! He has no cell phone service because he is too far north, but he does have a slow internet connection so we talked a little last night. He hooked up his webcam to show me his new place It's a tiny room with a bed, a desk, and a dresser. We talked about his interviews, and I guess the first place wanted a dollar figure for what he was expecting as a salary. I know you should never give a dollar figure, and if insisting you should just say "I make this much now, and would like at least that much to switch jobs" or something. Anyways, he did give a dollar amount... just slightly more than my current salary (he makes just a little less than me now) and they were like "That is WAY too high!" So that makes me wonder if I'm going to be able to leave this job without taking a big cut in pay The second place asked for references though, so it might be promising!

Layla is doing much better with her potty training! We're getting on a schedule... as soon as I wake up I pick her up and take her straight outside (she's a lazy bum and won't get up in the morning, I have to pick her up from her sleeping position!). When she pees, she gets to come in. Usually she'll go back out before I leave for work. Same thing happens as soon as I get home at lunch and right after work. Then she'll go out a few times in the evening. She RARELY uses her inside pad except for overnight. We put up the baby gate so she's stuck in the back of the condo at night, with the bedroom, laundry room, and bathroom open to her (she lays on the bathroom floor when she's too hot). She had a few accidents in the same spot of the hallway, so we have just put down cardboard over the carpet and she won't pee on it. Eventually we'll take the cardboard away and slowly train her not to go there. We have been spending way more time in the "reading room" so she's not peeing in there at all anymore!

[Lindsey]

Diana, I have felt my cousin and I growing apart lately and I really want to work for us to be as close as we were. We were my grandma's first two girls, after having 4 sons and then 2 grandsons, Brandi and I were born 6 months apart. Grandma just loved buying us matching clothes! We have always lived hours apart but as soon as we learned to write, we were writing each other letters constantly.

We grew apart in high school when she got into the party crowd and I was a goody-goody. Her mom passed away when we were both in our last year of high school, and it was very hard on me to see her at the funeral. She was obviously devastated and I felt I couldn't do anything for her because we weren't close anymore. When she was pregnant with her first daughter, we were 18, and we began talking again.

Basically we talked every single day until about last year... I feel that as soon as she starts dating someone new, I'm not important anymore. We email each other when she's at her job on Thursdays and Fridays but that's all I ever hear from her now.

[DianaB]

We're very similiar!! My cousin and Iwere the oldest two grandchildren too. I was older by a year. We were always close until I got married and had children. I've always been into being a mom but to my cousin, her children were an inconvience. She has also always been into looking good and when I gained weight.......well, that's when she really quit trying to be close. I still see her and she's always saying how she was just talking about coming up to see me, but the last time she was here was over 20 years ago. We're just so different now. She has a new husband (Glen and I really loved the first husband) and he's very, very young. So young that Glen and I don't really have anything much in common with him. It's really sad and I really miss her but she's not the same girl that I remember being friends with.

[judy]

I wish I had your energy Linds! It sounds like things are good for you, and that you are happy. HURRAY!!! You deserve to be happy.

I hope Scott gets the job. It sounds like his Mom is just trying to get you to understand what she is feeling. Of course, I wasn't there, so I don't know the tone of voice she used but you can use it to just agree with her, so that she knows where you stand. I don't like that she used crying on the phone to get her way. Stand strong!!!

Love you baby!

Pix of the new hairdo????

[Lindsey]

I just want to live my life and be happy, and make sure Scott is happy, and really not worry about how we're affecting anyone else. If his mom doesn't like that I'm in his life, that's her problem. She can dwell on it herself. I love him and he loves me and as long as we're both happy with that, nothing else matters!

Tonight I'm going to get some batteries for my camera and I'll take pictures of the condo and my new hair

[gja1000]

YAY! You go girl!!! Can't wait to see the condo and hair!

[Lindsey]

Sorry... I guess you'll have to wait a week! I did get camera batteries but I was so busy packing last night I didn't have time for pictures. Now I'm just doing last-minute packing before I leave on holidays.
I'll be back in a week and I'll take pictures then!