are you in love?

i think there is a difference in loving someone and being in love.
being in love is that first feeling you feel, is what you feel when your getting on well when your happy, when they say they love you when they make you feel loved wanted needed and special, its a feeling that comes and goes depending on what going on between you at the time, its a feeling that THEY make you feel.
loving someone is a feeling that you get after being with them a while, is a feeling you feel even when they have hurt you or when your not getting on or your angry with them, its a feeling thats there no matter whats going on between you and is the feeling you still have for a while after you have split up, its a feeling YOU feel.
i think you can love someone but not be in love with them any more cos they dont make you feel like they use to.
my mum always use to say she loved her partner but didnt like him and i could never understand that, but i do now, i love my partner and im happy to say im also in love with him but when we have had a row im not in love with him at that time and dont like him so now i get it, being in love comes and goes but loving someone stays, but to be happy and for it to last you have to feel in love to or you wont be happy cos it will feel one sided if they dont make you feel that in love feeling.
im lucky cos ive been with my partner for nearly 4 years and i love him and 99% of the time im in love with him to as hes very loving but i wondered if any of you still feel the same about your partners or if you love your partner but your not in love with them anymore?