How to present this to hubby

[A Man]

A man should stand by his woman. After all, he will be spending the rest of his life with his wife, and not his parents or anyone else. Maybe you can start by asking him what he kind of relationship he wants with his mother. Ask him how you may or may not be involved in such a relationship. If he put himself in your shoes and if he were you, what would he do?

You may also want to explicitly tell him how you feel about it, since sometimes guys may not know a woman's particular views until they get told it. If his mother wants to reconcile with both of you, that is admirable, but if she only wants her son back, that is a bit selfish, as her son choose YOU as his mate and she should learn to accept that you are a major part of his life now.