Too Many Chiefs

[DianaB]

My husband's family consists 3 boys and 2 girls, with my husband being the second born. His older brother, Mark, has a strong personality and the sister that is younger than my husband has a strong personality also, Brenda. The last brother and sister are easier going like my husband. Everyone lives in our area except Brenda who lives in Nebraska (about an 8 hr drive).

My husband's parents have been having some really bad health problems lately and of course, Brenda and Mark have taken care of the majority of the care. My husband's mother had surgery a while back and it was done in Nebraska, which was not very convienient for any of us. Let me add here that we're 100 miles from Wichita, 2 hours from Tulsa, 2 1/2 hours from Kansas City and Topeka, so going to Nebraska made absolutely no sense. Anyway, my mother-in-law is better and finally back home but now my father-in-law is having trouble.

My father-in-law found out a few years ago that he had high prostate numbers and no one pushed him to go to the doctor about it then, but he's having trouble now and everyone's all upset that nothings been done which was what my FIL wanted. There were some tests ran while he was in Nebraska with MIL and it was found out that he has prostate cancer and it's in his bones. My husband took him to Bartlesville, Oklahoma, to an appointment about having surgery which was set up by Mark to go to. My FIL pointed out some problems that he's having and the doctor wants to do a heart cath before he does the surgery. The doctor changed some of his meds which my husband went to a drugstore and bought (it cost us $500 for the meds). The medicine is shots that have to be given twice a day and everything was going well, but Brenda and Mark have decided that that is not the thing to do. That he doesn't need the heart cath and my FIL won't make a decision with so many strong personalities. My husband is trying to contact the doctors today and get some answers but he is so fustrated. I think that once he gets this ordeal over he's going to tell his sister that she needs to come down here and take care of things herself. He loves his Mom and Dad but he doesn't like to be pushed around.

We would really appreciate some prayers for his father's health and for the family. I'm sorry that this is so long and there's so much more that I could say, but I tried to make it short.