Don't know what to do!

[DianaB]

I think that every mother with a young child has felt like you do! Overwhelmed!! And in-law problems don't help. Remember that you married your husband, not his family.

First of all, simplify your life so you don't feel so busy and have time for your husband and baby. Say no to things that you don't have to do and get rid of things that you don't absolutely want to do.

I can sympathize with having your husband side with his mother because my husband, even after 33 years, is still like that. Every big arguement we've ever had has been because of his family. Hanging in there sometimes has been hard but my husband is a wonderful man and the thought of raising my children in two separate households just wasn't something that I wanted to do.

Believe me when I say that things will get better. Try to talk to your husband about the problems that you're having without attacking his mother and offer some solutions to help the situation. Not having your MIL babysit will give you some distance from her. I find that I like my MIL better if I'm not around her very much.

Don't be too quick to start talking about separation or divorce. My husband and I have always had an unspoken agreement that we would never bring those two things up and would work through things. We're in this for the long haul and sometimes it's really not easy! Good luck!