Please help me

[Dobie]

I wish I had something more positive to say - but after reading your posts about this relationship - I really think you need to re-evaluate it. Over the years I've worked with many young women that have stayed in bad relationships that have escalated to very ugly situations - I know you didn't ask for opinions on your relationship, but I feel the need to say it anyway.

It seems like it is a relationship built on drama, disrespect and verbal abuse. You guys seem to go through periods that you say you are happy, but they always seem to follow a huge blowout where he has been very inappropriate with you - that's one of the classic signs in an abusive relationship.

I don't really understand the craziness of last night for a few reasons. If you have issues with the ex, why was he invited to your party? I think you need to ask yourself why you became so upset that your ex was all over his current girlfriend, I can see that the behavior would be considered rather disgusting (but to be expected at a party with a lot of alcohol), your reaction seemed to be more out of jealousy.

Kyle's behavior outside his apartment is the most troubling - does he really not care how his girlfriend gets home from a party? The language that he uses when referring to you is unacceptable - I understand that people use profanity, but the F word when referring to your partner really is very disrespectful.

I'm sorry if I've come across as harsh, butyou seem like a bright young woman and it would be a shame if you lost your personality in an attempt to keep Kyle happy.