Met the parents!

[Lindsey]

We had a really good talk last night. A really good and long talk. There were some tears because I said something kind of harsh. I said "I'm just used to dating people who are a little more established in their lives than you are" and he was laying there, staring at the ceiling, and as soon as I said those words his hands started fidgeting and his face turned red and his lip was trembling and without even blinking there were tears running down his face. He wouldn't look at me. He could barely talk. He said "That's the worst thing you've ever said to me. I keep thinking everything is going great and I feel that I've done a lot with my life and I am being careful and I don't even know how I got a girl like you, and when you say something like that it makes me think everything is a lie, nothing is what I thought it was" My heart completely broke. I care so much about him. I never thought I could hurt him so badly with my words. I explained myself better and he understood better. And he said it's good that we're so open because it just goes to show that we do have problems like anyone but we care enough to work on them. And he does want to work on them.
He said he is going to start a list of everytime his mom calls and what it's for... if it's pointless or not. And maybe it'll help him see what everyone else sees. He asked a friend about it last night, and she agreed with me. And his ex had the same problem. He admitted that his mom is really really critical of anyone he dates, or even who his sisters dated. She hated their now husbands, until she got to know them, and now she loves them. He just wants me to give her a chance to get to know me, because he's sure she'll want me to be in their family as much as he does.
We took some time off work this morning to just cuddle and talk things over (we both have tons of banked hours anyway, and barely any work to do). And I told him "I want us to be okay" and he said "And we will be. I will limit how many times I talk to my mom. I will do anything to make you happy"