Used, abused and totally taken for granted

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My daughter came by today, washed her clothes, packed them up and left.
She claims I expect her to do too much and she's not going to help clean the house, so won't be coming back. She said she will stay with friends until she's able to get a place. She apologized for treating me so nastily but tried to justify it by saying she's depressed over her friends death, and so on. It's seriously been going on long before he died, but I didn't argue with her.

She was particularly angry that I told her I didn't want her sleeping on the sofa in the living room anymore. She has given away 2 beds... so right now has none... so I explained that's not my fault and she can sleep on her inflatable mattress or featherbed in her room until she's able to get another bed. She thinks I'm being totally unreasonable. She has no clue how frustrating it is to never be able to use your own living room because she's sprawled out on the couch.

I wish she'd have reacted differently, but she made the choice to leave, so now I hope she's able to make a go of it. I am also glad I didn't kick her out... but gave her options on how she could stay. At least this way it was her choice. I guess I'll be surprised if she doesn't come back in a couple weeks, but again, if she does, she's going to have to agree to living differently than she has been.

My son hasn't done much today, but has no desire to move out, so I'm going to have to get on his case more. It's hard to get him to do anything, but it's also important (for both our sakes) that he does.