What about porn?

i dont have a problem with porn if its the what i call the glossy stuff but not amature porn as i see them as normal people like you and me and its to personal as they are people having sex cos they want to not cos they are paid to do it.
i see a man useing porn the same as a woman useing a sex toy and thinking about men, men dont use there minds like we do they have to have an image in front of them thats why they use porn.
we look at porn like a women would ie we see them as a real person, think whats there name, what are they like, but men dont they just see lady bits, they dont make a story up of who that person is, they prob wouldnt notice if they had 2 heads lol.
to a man a pic of a woman is just a pic of lady bits, no more personal than a woman useing her mind to think of a man while useing a sex toy in fact what a woman thinks of is prob more personal.
i think the only time it is a problem is if its hidden from the other partner, if its something one partner is not happy about and doesnt like the other looking at then they should stop looking at it out of respect for there partners feelings.