Husband May Have Surgery!!

[Janet]

My husband has been having back trouble for quite some time. About 5 years ago, he went to a Dr. (our family Dr. recommended) and my husband was so afraid to have surgery, so the Dr. just gave him some exercises to do. It helped for a while, but as with most of us, when it stops hurting, we stop the exercises too.

Anyway, he went to the Dr. Friday and had x-rays taken. It shows in his lower back that the discs are bone on bone. He will be having an MRI done on the 26th and then an appt. on the 28th to discuss the MRI. The Dr. told him (like the first Dr. 5 years ago) that surgery is probably what will need to happen, but to not worry about it just yet. To wait till the results of the MRI. Well, my husband is scared to death, but he is so tired of the pain. It not only hurts in his back, but into his legs now. He says no matter how scared he is, he is having the surgery if that's what it takes to get over this pain. He is finally tired of it.

The only thing is....IF the surgery is done, he will be off work for up to 3 months. That's a long time for us to be together 24/7. So, if he will be having surgery, I will be asking for prayers...not only for him, but for me. I just know he'll drive me to the nut house. I do love my husband, but this scares me more than him having the surgery. I'll just have to pray he heals really, really fast!!!!

The other thing is, he may not be able to do the same job he is doing now..auto body repair. If he can't go back to doing what he's done all his life...I don't know what we'll do. He's tried finding other jobs, he's 54 and not too many places hire 54 year old men who have done body work their entire life. Plus, about the only thing he could do, to make close to the same amount of money, is factory work.

Guess I should have put this in another forum, maybe, but things are looking a little bit scary. I don't want to have to find a full time job again. I hoe that doesn't sound too selfish considering it's his health I'm talking about. I've worked every since I was 16 years old. Never being without a job. I took the bus driving a few years ago, because we both wanted me to be off when our son was home and not pay a sitter. My insurance is too great to let it go...so I guess right now I'm just kind of blowing off some nervous steam. Not knowing how this is going to play out for us is a little nerve wracking. I'm trying to not get to worked up yet until he's had the MRI and we find out exactly what is in store for us.

Please keep us in your thoughts for now, I would really appreciate it.