How do I tell him??

[toodles]

I am really struggling with something. I just am not attracted to my husband anymore. I dread being intimate with him. It has nothing to do with me loving him...because I do. But he has gained about 30 lbs in the last year and I just can't stand it. I have never been with anyone that let themselves go that bad. never. I hope I don't sound too shallow here but this is very serious to me. I don't expect him to be all muscles and in tip top shape..he wasn't when I met him and I was ok with that. But he has really gotten bad. He has rolls on his back! It was very hard for me to get past the fact that he is COVERED in black hair...but I am ok with that. but the combination of him being very overweight...I really can't handle it. I have tried to encourage him to eat better and exercise. but he just isn't doing it. I have even cut out 99% of all sweets, cut WAY back on my servings of food, and lost 13 lbs in an effort to get him to be more concious of what he is doing. I am not a heavy person by ANY means...i could stand to lose a few pounds...but it isn't much at all. i think every woman feels like she could lose a few lbs

i am sorry if i sound like a snob or a horrible person...i really do feel bad for feeling this way. but i can't help it. He is a very intimate person and it is really killing him that I am never "in the mood" but i just can't help it. and I have no idea how to tell him. like i said, i have tried over and over again to encourage him to do better...and not by telling him that HE needs to, but by doing it myself and asking him to join me. he just isn't getting the hint.

i am afraid our relationship is going downhill because of it but i really can't help it. i just can't. am i a bad person???