Aaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[katepoet]

Sounds like you are taking the risk and putting it out there - how brave! Sometimes friends do have to be confronted with the truth in order for them to get it together. I haven't done that in a long time - it seems as we all get older we are less likely to consider changing when a friend hits us upside the head - but it sounds like you have a good chance of her coming back to you with her truth.