17 yr old daughter, need I say more?

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I feel like I cant do a single thing right these days. My daughter is 17 and a Jr in high school. Her grades are very important this year and next. She is a very smart child, just not applying herself. She had an F and two D's on her last report card. I grounded her off her cell phone, and she is not allowed to go off to friends. This last weekend she wanted to go stay with friends, and go to the Rennaisance Fair in Hammond. I said NO, you are grounded. Well...I am dirt now. She says she is having a nervous breakdown cause she cant get out of the house. She has only been home for 2 weekends now. Not like she has been confined to her bedroom for months. Now, I am the worst mother alive, I just cant get her to understand how important her grades are right now. If she plans to get a grant or anything for college, she needs those grades decent. Is anyone else going through all this. Do you get told you are a bad mom, and how you dont care.

I do try, her dad is a severe alcoholic and that messes with her. She just over looks him now that she is older. She does not see him very often though, which is a good thing to me. I dont keep her away from him, but she stays away on her own. Any opinions are appreciated. I am at my wits end!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Cathy