Am I Nuts?

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by HALEY

humm you want to work and i wish we had the money so i didn't have to work and i can stay home with my son, i always miss him when im hear at work and i am missing so much of life being here, it just stinks sometimes... when the sitter tells me he took two steps today, i just want to cry some days...

Haley, I know it's hard to leave them at home with a sitter, but someone told me that baby's first step or baby's first word is the first one that Mom sees or hears. I lived by that, and it made it easier for me to accept. The really important time for us was when we were together.

Our daughters stayed up a little later in the evenings also than children with stay at home moms, but I'd rather have the awake time with them, and let them sleep more with the sitter. It didn't seem to hurt either one of them, however, we didn't wake them up in the morning and take them to a sitter, the sitter came to us, your situation may be different.

They will love you not matter what, and the most important thing is what you are teaching them when you are with them, the example you are setting, supplemented by a quality sitter, who has the same or similiar values as your own. And don't feel too guilty. I'm sure you are a wonderful caring mom!!!!