Opinions needed!

[Kimberley]

My hubby and I have had many a not-so-nice discussion about this...

My husband thinks that I need to teach my daughter to cook, sew, clean, fold laundry, etc. IMO, she's learned how to do those things by watching me but I do not allow her to do those things...she's 11.

Now, my husband is the type of man (only child) that had his mother do everything for him. When I'm not around, he makes my daughter load/unload the dishwasher, clean her brother's room and fold her own laundry. I do not agree with this.

To me, he's wanting my daughter to learn to wait on men. I DON'T THINK SO!!! Shoot, if my husband keeps his stuff laid around too long, I do not put them up. I put them in the trash.

Now, when we have lived (for a short time) with the in-laws, my MIL had my daughter fixing and serving HER husband's plate and pouring his glass of tea. EXCUSE ME? Get off of your ass and do it yourself! But then again, my MIL waits on her husband hand a foot. NOT ME! If you're hungry enough, you'll take your ass in the kitchen and fix your own plate and pour your own tea. THIS, I have taught my husband. Then, when you're finished, YOU will take your stuff back to the kitchen.

ANYWAY, am I not doing right by not allowing my daughter to do these menial house stuff? I just don't want her to wait on a man when she gets older.

My opinion is, a man can cook, clean, work, raise kids, do laundry just like a woman can. Marriage should be each party giving 110% not one give while the other takes.