I'm deeply hurt......

[DianaB]

With my FIL gone my MIL has to make some decisions like how she's going to leave things for her kids. After Frank's funeral it was decided that all of his farm equipment and tools would be left for all of her sons and all of the household stuff would be left to her daughers.

Let me add that my MIL has been a packrat for as long as I've known her. She used to go to auctions and buy boxes and boxes of antiques and take them home and do nothing with them. The boxes and everything else she has has piled up to where she has rooms that you can't go into and she lives in a huge home. Not only is the home filled but they also have a huge garage and the upstairs is filled as well. Enough for everyone, including the grandchildren to have something special that was their grandmother's. I pointed out to my husband that this decision doesn't leave anything to my children.

Yesterday they called a "Family Meeting" and that means ONLY my MIL and her children and she told them how things were going to be divided. My husband, bless his heart, spoke up about how unfair this is to the inlaws. Basically what she told my husband was that she's never considered me a part of her family! I've been married for 34 years! I've always felt that she never considered me a part but for her to have actually said it.....! My husband was very hurt to have even told me but he wanted me to know what was going on. I've been crying off and on since he told me. It's not just my MIL, it's also her daughters. They feel the same way.

I've decided that I'm done. I'm not going to her house anymore or to anymore of my MIL's family gatherings because there's all of my MIL's sisters and they are all just like her. The sad part is is that my husband has even seen how they are and it bothers him.

I keep telling myself that it's just stuff, but that's not what hurts. It was her comment. I'd appreciate it if you'd say a prayer for me because I don't want to be bitter over this or have hurts. I want to just be able to walk away with my head high knowing that I did the best that I could and that I was a good DIL and SIL in this family.