My Husband had an affair with "my best friend"

[Necee419]

Hi welcome to 4womentalk!! I am so sorry you had to go through this. I caught an ex-boyfriend of mine cheating on me with another girl and it was tough. i forgave him but I was never able to trust him after that. Eventually I broke up with him because I couldn't handle things. Every time he was late, or I didn't know where he was, I assumed he was out cheating. I took its toll on me emotionally and my self esteem was non-existent. I admire you for your courage to stick it out with your husband. However, I agree with the ladies that you both need counseling. You may forgive your husband but you will never forget the betrayal and those old insecurities will resurface the minute something happens. A professional can help you work through those feelings. Your husband also must take responsibility for his actions as well. Granted the lady sounds like a psycho but it takes two to tango and he NEVER should have betrayed you with her in the first place. Best of luck to you both and I hope you find a way to make peace in your relationship.