New daughter in law woes

Thanks so much, to all of you, I really appreciate your good thoughts and advice...I am relieved to hear no one thinks I am meddling cause I really try to stay out of things with my children and there spouses, but red flags were flying up everywhere, and I could not dismiss them.

My son dated this girl for 2 1/2 yrs. with living so far away, I would only see her when they came for a visit or we went there, and I never noticed anything amiss, but since they were here for 3 weeks, there was No hiding her true self for that long. While my son worked her maternal grandmother watched her till recently, then fiancee took over.....I have told my son since Iz will be in all day kindergarden, why doesnt she go back to her other grandmas after school so they can spend a lil time with her..(my thought to keep the one on one to a minimum with new wife) I also but a lil bug in other grandmas ear on how nice it would be for her to have Iz a lil bit through the week, without going into detail, and I think it may happen, I will be in seventh heaven if it wworks keep your fingers crossed for me and Iz...

Thanks again everyone!