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[Blueyes]

I think you have made the best decision! You're a smart cookie, Lindsey!!

[Lindsey]

Aww thanks Betsi! Scott is a little unsure of his new job there too. He says it's okay, he can do the work, but he gets SO BORED. He complains that nobody makes conversation or really talks at all. He emails me every once in awhile for conversation. I think I've kind of been spoiled at this company because I can basically do what I want I'm slightly too A.D.D. and I don't think I could last a full day without any distractions! I couldn't stare at one project and work on it all day because I would get too frustrated. Every once in awhile I need a trip to 4WT or facebook or hotmail or something so I can go back to the job a few minutes later with a fresh mind!

[DianaB]

Lindsey, I didn't realize that all of this was going on!! I haven't kept up with all the posts on here. Wow!! You do have some important decisions to make!! I'm glad that you've talked this over with your parents and Scott. Less stress is definitely an important factor. Keep us informed. Hugs!!

[Lindsey]

Thanks Diana!
Another factor Scott and I discussed last night was that we'd have the same job and although we wouldn't always be on the same projects, I think it would still put some competition in our relationship. His boss said he wanted to start us at the same salary, but after a year we would both get raises based on our performance. If one of us got a better raise than the other, we'd be wondering why the other person did better and I think it could lead to some resentment. I really don't think I can work with him again. We did okay here together for a year, but we weren't ALWAYS together. He would be out of town sometimes on jobs, or he'd be helping out in the lab, or he'd be home on banked time. But even the little we were together, we still had some problems from it.

[DianaB]

It sounds like you've really thought things through. I think that you've got a keeper in Scott so protecting your relationship is a good idea.

[gja1000]

Gosh Lindsay! I don't know how I missed this!!!

I can tell you one thing, I have worked for 30 years in a career that I have loved every minute of. It DID NOT pay me what I could have earned in a different type of position. For example, hospital administration pays MUCH MUCH better - but it is SO SO SO stressful and the hours a very very long and tedious. I wouldn't trade my lower paying job for any type of hospital administration job - not for all the tea in China! There is a lot to be said for sanity and peace!

You have carefully considered everything, by the sounds of it and you have made a good decision. Good luck!

[Lindsey]

Gayle, I feel the same way. I would much rather be less stressed. I don't handle stress very well at all.

When I was working in the lab at this company, the job was quite easy but I never knew if I would get a lunch break that day, or what time I would get home at night, or if somebody would call me to be out on site before I even got out of bed in the morning. On top of that, there were quite a few men on the construction sites who didn't like having a woman telling them their materials weren't passing, and then there were others who really liked having a woman on site. There's no worse feeling than getting and education and working really hard at your job and coming on site for an older man to call you "baby" instead of using your name I was living with my grandma for that 8 months, and she fed me more than I've ever eaten, yet I still managed to drop about 30 lbs, handfuls of hair fell out in the shower, and my friends and coworkers started telling me how awful I looked.

Sometimes I feel that I'm not working to my potential because I'm just using a small amount of the knowledge I got from college. On the other hand, I've taken that knowledge and really expanded it with the extra courses I've taken since being out of school. Maybe it's better to be REALLY GOOD at one thing, than just kind of good at everything else.