It is so on....

[magnolia]

I agree - something else has got to be bothering him and he's taking it out on you and the furbabies. I would try to talk to him to find out what is the real, true reason for his actions and why he's so upset. Sending you lots of hugs and prayers!

[Janet]

So Willow.....how are things going??? Has he settled down yet? Hopefully you two were able to talk it all out and things have improved.

[Willow]

Hi guys. Sorry for not being here much. Yes we are better and to answer questions we have been married 8 years, together 10, and we normally have a great relationship and the dogs have never really bothered him before. In fact, until this incident, Gizmo could do no wrong and he would fly off the handle at anyone who even threatened to harm her.

We have actually had a rough week. His great uncle passed last Friday and the calling hours were on Monday and the funeral was on Tuesday. This was more than an uncle to him, they were good friends and hunting buddies. His Aunt didn't call until the next day and them my father in law refused to tell us where the services were being held and what time. Ernie was upset and he was taking it out on us. We had a sitter all lined up and I had time off work so we could go. Ernie (hubby) is pretty upset still. He just found out that another Aunt passed several months ago and no one told him. His dad slipped up and "let the cat out of the bag". My husband is going through a tough time emotionally right now. He feels like he is being purposely kept from his family and he isn't dealing well. I told him it was ok to be upset, but that it is not ok to take it out on me and the kids or the furkids. He did apologise shortly after that happened and even made me coffee and went with me to look at a house we are interested in, but I could tell he was still upset over his uncle and his aunt and upset at his dad for not telling him and for not giving us arrangement details and the Uncles wife won't talk to us at all. In fact, she is threatening to sell everything off and not let any of the family have anything from Uncle Buddy.

So right now it is mostly Ernie needs time to heal and to get over the hurt he is feeling right now. His family always seems to hurt him. First his brother, then his sister, and now his dad. We will get through it, it is just going to be an emotional roller coaster for a bit. But atleast now he is talking to me and not just lashing out in anger. He even took Gizmo to bed with him that night and was kissing her and telling her he is sorry and that she was his little girl.

Oh, and the kids and I aren't going anywhere. We have worked too hard and invested too much in this place, our marraige, and our family to just toss it away over one little disagreement. I gotta learn to not say things in anger.

[Willow]

Oh and I forgot to say, thanks for listening!

[red98vett]

I'm sorry - but I could never respect a man who takes out his problems on animals - your husband needs to redirect his anger and find out WHY he's acting like that - but I know one thing - if mine EVER threw one of my girls even a few inches - he better know KUNG FU cause he'd be dealing with Mama BEAR.

[Marilyn]

You're husband might have to do what mine did. He doesn't associate with his family any more at all. They just have different priorities than he does, and they do very selfish things, so we don't communicate with them at all. I communicate with my family some, but our parents and most of our aunts and uncles have all passed away, so we just kinda reset the family. We are starting a new family tree, us and our daughters. Our family are our friends and church family. It's really very liberating.