Part Of The Problem Is Gone

[Janet]

One of the therapists gave me some names of places that will come and sit with Mom if I want to run an errand or just have time to myself. So when I need it, I will definitely use it. I also have a fellow bus driver who I've become good friends with. She told me today that she really doesn't have anything to do in the summer and would be glad to come sit and talk with Mom while I do what I need to do. It was so sweet of her.

Brad did send me a text back and say that he would see Mom....it just wouldn't be here. So...guess I'll have to get out the hoops for him to jump through....LOL. Yes....I can be a turd if need be. He'll have to speak with her Drs. if he wants any information because when I say I'm done....I'm completely done.

[judy]

So, is he planning to meet her at the local bar? Will he pick her up and take her out?

Puh!!!

[Janet]

He's such an a$$ Judy it's really hard telling. I do know that if any of us see his number on caller ID we will not answer it. If Mom has a phone by her she can answer it or we'll just hand the phone to her.

He's always been the spoiled baby of the family and thinks everyone should do the way he does. I'm so glad I won't have to deal with him anymore. It's like a big weight lifted from my shoulders.

[judy]

I agree that you don't need his nonsense right now. Just do some soul seatrching so that you are not left with any regrets about yourself, Mom or your brother.

[DianaB]

I'm so glad that you've found some people to help out. Be sure and use them!!!!! What a help they can be!!!!

[Janet]

Originally Posted by judy

I agree that you don't need his nonsense right now. Just do some soul seatrching so that you are not left with any regrets about yourself, Mom or your brother.

Thanks Judy.....I really don't think I'll have any regrets. Brad and I were not close. He was always so moody and could change his attitude in a second. He's the type that you can be laughing and having a great time and then all of a sudden he's pissed. I was so tired of walking on egg shells around him. We hardly ever spoke until Mom got sick. I just realized the other day that he has been in his house for 15 years and I've been there 3 times. He lives 3 miles from me.

None of the family likes his wife at all. We just tolerated her because of Brad. Well....now I don't have to tolerate either one of them. I'm really not sad about this at all. I just feel like my load has gotten lighter...and that's a good thing.

[JJJ]

When your mom leaves the Earth you will have the satisfaction of knowing you did everything you could for her. He on the other hand will be feeling like what you said he is. And he will regret not spending time with her all his breathing days.

[Janet]

You're so right. I'm trying to do the right thing by Mom and myself so there won't be any regrets. Even though it's hard some days.....it's wonderful on others. I'm learning some life lessons and that's always good.