Prayers for my Dad

[Janet]

I'm so sorry to read that Linda. You're a strong woman, but we're here for you. If you need anything even just to talk you know my number. Try to stay positive. (((((hugs))))

[judy]

Poor Dad! Have a safe trip, and keep us posted please. You are all in my prayers.

[gja1000]

It is so hard, Linda. I hope things go really well for his surgery and rehab. My mom fell and broke her leg in Oct. and it is very very hard. You just have to do the best you can. Take care of yourself, you can't run yourself ragged.

[gja1000]

Linda, you will need to find a rehab facility that will take patients with dementia. That may take a bit of looking since not all of them will. It is important to get him in a facility that knows how to do rehab with someone with dementia. Without proper rehab, he may never walk again.

[Janet]

Linda...how are you doing? Your Dad?

[2tiredmom]

ok. just got home then had to make the usual calls to people to let them know i was home. this may take a minute to type. Sorry. I had to unwind from my 2 1/2 hour drive home. back in september dad was living by himself and fell and fractured his pelvis. So they put him in a nursing home for rehab. That was september. They let him out on Thanksgiving He had 100 days before medicade would start. So he got out then went to live with my brother and SIL because he lives near them.
Any way. My brother want's my dads house. So the drs today said he needed to go to rehab again at nursinghome. Well i went today and checked on it. he can only be there for 22 days because that's how many days he had left from the last time he was there. if he had done this the middle of Feb. he would have had the 100 days again. Anyway. if he is there longer than 22 days it's S$160.00 a day for room and board. Does not count meds or supplies. Then medicaid will kick in after a while.
He will have to sell his home. My brother is mad does not want to sell the house as I said he wants the house. but he does not have the money to buy it and he couldn't any way because in Indiana if we had put it in our names 5 years ago they could not touch it. BUt they can now if we were to sell it to my brother. As I was saying he does not have the money any way. So him and my SIL don't care for me much right now. I just want what''s best for my dad. They just want the house.
SO go figure. Sorry but I needed to VENT. Thaks for reading. Dad may get out on THursday. will write more later after i have calmed down a bit. Back to work tomorrow so I can get my mind off things. Thanks again.

[gja1000]

Linda, I'm so sorry to hear all of this. It is so hard when family doesn't agree on things and it sounds like your brother is being very selfish. It is just so hard to manage aging parents along with aging selves!