Is It possible to give too much to our kids at christmas?

[Willow]

Originally Posted by Brooke

I would let them have the gifts... I would explain that so and so gave them gifts too... if i gave some one's kids gifts i would be upset if they didnt get them. I understand what your thinking but these people are sharing with you in the true Christmas spirit, and you don't want to deprive them of their gifts to their kids do you??? I would really be upset if they had to give their gifts away... I put much thought into gifts and would hope they would be loved by the reciever... Please don't be mad, it's just my opinion....

I understand what you are saying. I will tell you quite honestly that it is hard for me to NOT give them all of it. A very selfish part of me wants them to have it all so I can enjoy their excitement while they open them.

Another part of me feels guilty that my kids were so blessed this year considering there are others out there in the same predicament we are. When Help Me Grow brought my kids the gifts they had for them I even asked them if there were other families in the area that needed them more. She said we were the only family that had a need right now (I really don't believe that!) and I told them, well my kids don't need more gifts. They have been blessed already. The super laughed at me and said "of course they need more! It's Christmas!"

I did tell them about another family I know that has children that is having a rough time for Christmas (same family I shared the share a christmas with) and they promised me they would see what they could do for that family even though they do not live in our county. They said the had to help within county first before they help out of county, but they do know the family I mentioned.

My husband wants me to let them have it all. He thinks it would be cruel to let them open all their gifts and then tell them they have to give some away. I just think it would teach my kids how to care and be compassionate towards others. His reason for not wanting to hold back for birthdays is we don't have a big enough place to store gifts for several months.

What I would REALLY love to be able to do is adopt kids off those angel trees and have my kids shop for those kids.

[DianaB]

Instead of MAKING them give a gift try sitting down and explaining the situation to the older children and let it be their choice. They may know someone from school or church or somewhere that they would like to share a toy with. Then let them wrap or be a part of the wrapping and the giving. Kids love giving gifts to others. If they decide that they don't want to do it then that would be alright too, just make it their decision.

[Willow]

Originally Posted by DianaB

Instead of MAKING them give a gift try sitting down and explaining the situation to the older children and let it be their choice. They may know someone from school or church or somewhere that they would like to share a toy with. Then let them wrap or be a part of the wrapping and the giving. Kids love giving gifts to others. If they decide that they don't want to do it then that would be alright too, just make it their decision.

I really like that idea!! And I know my daughter would definitely go for it!! Especially if I present the idea to them in a positive way! Katie loves to make others happy! Thank you so very much!!