Don't tell me how to train my kids!!!

My kids were potty trained at different ages. I did not potty train them. They did it themselves with my guidance. Of course they were encouraged to use the big kids potty and all of the things that go along with potty training. But THEY, my kids did it. They were not humiliated into it. They were not verbally attacked or scorned because they weren't trained yet. Each child is different and when they are ready, they will. It worked great too because once they were trained, it was both day and night. No night diapers. 1 was 2 1/2, another 3 and my last one was 4. She hated diapers yet she took the longest. We did the potty chair and all that. She also never climbed out of her crib. So what I did with her was we talked about it for about 2 months about getting her a big girls bed. And also when she got the big girls bed, then we would get rid of the diapers and she would start wearing big girl panties. By the time we transitioned to the big girls bed, she was potty trained.

My kids were easy because I let them do it when they were ready, not because of pressure from others.

[red98vett]

Girl I don't blame you a bit. Some kids are slower than others and he WILL get it when he's ready. Your FIL was acting like a child himself making fun of a little toddler and I know I'd have been pretty upset too. You may want to try getting him on the potty seat every few hours just to get him in the habit but I'm sure you've already tried everything....

I used to read to my boys when they were in the bathroom - they both trained pretty young but my 2nd was the one who had accidents....Look at it like this - how many UNTRAINED adults are there in the world ??? (NOT any that I know lol ) so yes - he WILL get potty trained one day - when he's good and ready... and this is NOT something anyone should be riduculing him over.

Hugs to your son and you - FIL needs to learn to keep his comments to himself ...if he isn't going to HELP then he needs to be quiet.

[Willow]

He does tell me he needs to go, but he is small yet and sometimes he makes it and sometimes he doesn't. I tell him that is ok because atleast he TRIES and trying is what is important. He went all day today without ANY accidents until right before bed and then he had one. BUT he was in the bathroom trying to get to the potty, so I don't really think that counts because he was trying.

My oldest son was easy. I just waited until my husband was in the bathroom...uh...you know...and I snuck down the hallway with my son (who was also 3 at that time) and I said "SEE!! see how daddy pees???" Scared my husband to death, who missed btw! LOL but it worked. The next morning Kody got up and said "I want to go potty just like daddy!"

[Janet]

When our son was little, our Pediatrician told us not to worry, because he had yet to know of one starting in kindergarten that wasn't trained. We were lucky, our son was trained to potty at 2 1/2, but my nephew was 4.